How did you feel during the pregnancy?

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1. I honestly didn’t think about my feelings during this time. It wasn’t about me. My job was to ensure she had everything she needed to feel loved, comfortable, safe, and taken care of. I suppose if I had to give a specific answer, I’d say that I felt pretty good knowing I was doing my best.

2. Never thought about it. Just did everything I was supposed to and more.

3. That she was such a complainer. “Ooo, I’m vomiting and can’t keep anything down, would you carry yourself to the bathroom today?” or “ooo I have crippling back pain, would you carry yourself upstairs to the bedroom tonight?”

   Like take responsibility for yourself. Just being pregnant doesn’t mean you can’t do your chores

4. Excited, proud, anxious in the first few months, protective, and last but not least, horny.

5. Stressed. My wife had three coworkers who miscarried and I was wondering if there was some chemical in their building.

   Also my wife was in pain at times and I felt guilty about that.

   Was kinda funny, she’d be panicky on the way to the OB appt, but after he said everything looked great, she was horny and wanted to celebrate. Once he told her:

   “You’re not gaining weight, but the baby is the right size, so you know the trick”

   and she really had her way with me once we got home.

6. Stressed she’s having all these aches & pains that I can’t make go away, she’s cranky at me most days even though I’m trying my best, & no sex for 7 months bc she doesn’t want to. Ik it’s a lot to be pregnant, but I kinda feel like if the roles were reversed i’d be treated not as good.

7. The short pregnancy was not an issue. Comforting her after she chose abortion was another thing. How do I comfort her in her regret? All I could do is hold her. I always felt that was not enough.

8. As a trans man pregnancy sucked.

9. Well my wife’s pregnancy was pretty none normal as you can get. Found out she had kidney disease at 16 weeks

   She needed dialysis for the rest of the pregnancy 4 times a week we only had one car I was doing 3k miles in under 2 months. Had to do care plan if she didn’t make it. Had three OB plus mayo.

   I ended up in the hospital myself cause if stress…. Or at least that’s what they tell me I had heart rate over 100bpm with blood pressure over 180.

10. Like a man

11. Ever increasing dread and despair. It was like a counting down to the end of my freedom and happiness.

12. Worried about getting to 12 weeks, worried about the first ultrasound, soon realised I would be worried for the rest of my life. Also my wife yelled at me and didn’t speak to me for the rest of the night because I threw away the expired by a week pasta salad that she was about to eat so there was that

13. I felt kinda left out and unable to really speak about it, since I put about 15 minutes of work in for something my wife put 9 months and much more pain into lol

    Biologically speaking, you’re just never going to have the same connection as the other parent that is literally building a new person inside their body.

    It took me awhile to accept that my connection to my kid required more time and patience to develop and to accept that it’s just as valid in the long term, since all I could really do was help out the best I could but otherwise be along for the ride.