I simply can’t do it. I’ve tried extremely well-rated vibrators, dildos, etc with no luck. I can make myself orgasm without any touch at all in about 5 minutes by imagining a scenario, and my partner can make me orgasm in a number of ways, but as soon as I whip out a toy, I instantly fall out of the mood. To be clear, I’m counting toys as stimulation devices only; I know there can be a bit of a blurred line in terms of what counts or not.
Why might this be the case? I typically hear the opposite from other women around my age—that toys make them orgasm harder and faster than anything else can. I think it would be fun to implement them into my sex life, however, despite my disappointing experiences with them so far. Is there a way that I can train myself to respond to them better?
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Maybe they’re just not your thing?
If so, that’s okay, although it might not suit your objectives.
As for training, try bringing yourself to orgasm or having your partner do the same through a means that you know works then introduce the toys at the last second, on the periphery and when you’re almost guaranteed to come regardless. Over time, your brain might begin to associate the toys with pleasure and orgasm, which might help you get there.
Also try not to focus too much on getting to the orgasm itself, which is an orgasm-killer for sure. If they feel good, enjoy that for what it is and let the rest come if it comes.
I was this way at first. My method pre-toys was a humping motion with a blanket or pillow. I switched to the same motion with my vibe and can now have multiples rather rapidly in succession. Going back to the old method takes forever and doesn’t last as long or as intensely. Can you supplement your toys for whatever your manual method is?