So as the title says i’m anyways conventionally unattractive, but also i’m hyper obsessed with my appearance and put exessive amount of effort into fixing it. Which not all unattractive people do, some are just okay with their looks I guess. But the thing is I am tired and idk how to live life. Obsessing over my looks and feeling extremely ugly and then that being validated by me not having any romantic experience and no one hitting on me at 25 is eating me alive. I tought I could escape it – i got a good career, education, financially stable but it just keeps getting worse with age. I walk around with a pit in my stomach and feel on the verge of tears most of the time… it affects my performance at work, i started losing friends because they all have normal lives and boyfriends and it triggers me so much I started to withdraw from hanging out with them. Idk and it’s also just so exhausting, doing all the skincare, working out, doing make up, being hyper aware of my facial muscles and making sure I don’t relax my face when i’m in public, sitting at angles where most people see me from the more flattering side, obsessing over calories and step counts, being paraboid about seeing my photos and reflection and it’s like that everyday, all for nothing, to still be unlovable and ugly. I just wish I was someone else, i can’t believe this is my life. I feel so overwhelmed and exhausted, like i’m trying to outrun a train. Does it ever get better because I find it gotten worse with age, even though I used to look worse when I was younger? How did you guys find a partner while being unattractive as a woman?
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I bet you aren’t even half as unattractive as you think.
You must know you must not be as unattractive as you may think, when I was a teenager I used to think I was very ugly but I got to know that I really wasn’t and that’s something that held me back from dating back then before I knew there were girls that I thought were off my league that had a crush on me.
You are your worst critic is what I’ve learnt.
Aside from that either way if you look good or not you should grow your confidence and express yourself, not everything is about looks when it comes to men we all will fall for a great personality and an interesting woman that can stand out from the crowd but in a positive way.