What’s the point in life if you’re just going to be miserable all the time?

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1. You would really benefit from therapy. You sound depressed. But you also sound like you haven’t figured out what you value and get happiness from in life. There are a lot of possibilities for what that might be, but it varies from person to person. So, a therapist can help you work through what your actual values are so you can lead a life that you find fulfilling.

2. It always sounded ungrateful to me when people ask “what’s the meaning of my life?”

   You have a life. And seemingly, a relatively good one. You need some “meaning” on top of that? Life, in itself, is not enough? People don’t appreciate what they have…

   And talking about that “meaning”. It’s what you make it. Your life depends on your actions and attitude.

3. Honestly you sound depressed. The part of your ex staying in contact with your family is a little weird unless your ok with it.

   Maybe try to get some help with depression. Then find some happiness. Possibly a new job. A vacation to look forward to enjoying. A hobby. Anything that brings you some happiness and peace. Maybe start hiking or biking. Etc…

4. Figure out who you really are, what you enjoy doing, what makes you happy. And start to create a life around those things. Keep in mind that what makes one person happy won’t necessarily be what makes you happy.

5. It does feel like that sometimes. I remember someone saying “I hate when people say life is short, life is literally the longest fucking thing anyone will experience”, and that’s doubly true when you’re working someplace you don’t enjoy. Something that helped me was quitting my job and living off savings (and busking) for a while. Made my own schedule, meaning I always had time to hang with family and friends, and just indulged in my hobbies for the most part. It was nice to take a breath after spending most of my time from high school until then working at places I hated. I understand that’s not possible for a lot of people, but it helped me so much. It’s crazy how good it is to have a good night’s sleep uninterrupted by thoughts of what a customer said to me the day before or worrying about some mistake I made at work.

   Eventually when I went back to work, I felt so much better. Also managed to land a better job where I moved up and felt comfortable. And yeah, bills and taxes still suck but are an unfortunate part of living in society.

   I think the point for me is just to try and have a good time. I’ve reached a point in my life where, if there’s something I don’t enjoy I’m either going to work on improving it or cut it out.

   As for if this is the best it gets, I guess that depends on your perspective. I just think how lucky I am to be here, especially since I have cousins living in Africa that live in buildings without a roof and no windows, where the best opportunity for them to get a job is by digging ditches for less than 50 cents an hour. Not saying that fact invalidates your feelings, just that when I think of that, I’m okay if this is the best it gets for me.

6. >she still stays in contact with my family.

   She is an adult, your family are adults, you don’t get to gatekeep the friendships of people you’ve introduced to each other in the past.

   >I have good qualifications. Yet I still don’t like my job.

   So get another job, either in your field, or in a totally different field. Only you can do this, nobody is going to step in and fix it for you.

   >People seem to tell me all work sucks. No matter what you do.

   They’re wrong. I love my job. Lots of people love their jobs. Talk to different people.

   >Then bills. Taxes. Everything else. What is the point in this?

   The point of a heating bill? It saves you from having to go and build a fire to stay warm. The point of paying rent? It puts a roof over your head that saves you from getting wet every time it rains. Point of paying for a clean water supply? You don’t get dysentery from drinking water contaminated with sewage.

   Don’t care about having those things that the bills pay for? That’s absolutely fine, you’re an adult, nobody is forcing you to do any of that stuff, go live rough.

   The bottom line – get assessed by a mental health professional:

   * If you’re depressed, get treatment.
   * If you’re not depressed, go visit a third world country and come back with an appreciation of how incredibly lucky you are.

7. Probably spend less time wallowing with the people telling you all work sucks and kids suck etc; neither of those things are generally true.

   If your Dr is unsupportive there really is nothing wrong with unilaterally going to another for a second opinion.

   You do sound depressed – life won’t always feel this way.

8. in the words of my dad, “there’s a lot of ways to live a life.”

   it sounds like the 9-5 office job and the lifestyle that comes with it really isn’t working for you. that’s fine, try something else. you’re young and you don’t have a partner or kids tying you down to one place or requiring steady income. take a less draining job with different hours, go to grad school, just travel around and live cheap—whatever will help you be happier. if you have good qualifications then you can always go back to a stable desk job, but you can’t get back the time you spend in misery.

9. Do you like anything?