That’s, like, the best way I can think to describe it and I don’t know how to fix it?
I’m at a new-ish job, and the other 9 people have really bonded (I think?), like they’ll all have lunch together for an hour! And I’m just at my desk working thinking like…what is there to say all the time?? What is going on in other peoples’ brains where they just have stuff to say and my brain is literally just blank.
If I’m one-on-one with a person I’m even more anxious because I can see when other people are one-on-one they’re chatting and giggling and I’m just like…it feels stupid to ask “how are you” and then have nothing else to say. I also have like no life outside of this job so it’s not like I have anything interesting to lead with.
Ugh it’s so frustrating because I can feel how awkward I am and how out of place I am when I’m in a group with the rest of them and they’re all buddies. What do I do??
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sorry this isn’t an answer. just responding because this is my experience. some event has to happen that is noteworthy to speak to someone you don’t already know well, as they aren’t immediately interested in hearing about your personal life because it doesn’t relate to them at all. problem is, we are in similar situations in which noteworthy events rarely happen and this leaves few opportunities for the initiation of conversation. you don’t just sit next to someone and say “im getting another cat soon” because, well, why should they care?