So I’m in a place for a month, I have little to no friends in this city but I’m bored out of my mind just staying in all the time. I want to go out clubbing, drinking, and/or dancing but have absolutely no one to go with. How do I go to the bar/club by myself? I feel like every time I go with friends I never end up talking to anyone outside of my friend group unless I and my friends get absolutely sloshed. No matter if we’re at a party or a bar, groups tend to stick to their own in my experience. My question is how do I go out on my own without it being weird? Like it’s fine if I’m chatting with friends and getting along but if I go by myself it’s just me standing there with my drink. How do people go out on their own or make friends while out? I never even talk to people, it seems so hard to do this in America. I’ve gone out in other countries and it was easier because people seemed more open to just talking but I never seem to find a way to talk to people anywhere. Any advice on going out on my own or making friends in these situations would be helpful. Also, how do you approach guys in bars? I have absolutely no idea how this works, especially alone. Btw I’m 28f. Thanks in advance.
12 comments
[removed]
I just go and expect to be alone but I usually enjoy my time alone, anyways. Someone always chats me up.
See if you can find some kind of singles meet-ups to go to. Romantic or not, that will be full of others looking to socialize.
Look up organized pub crawls for your city/nearby city and do that.
That way you’re not really going alone and you’re also meeting new people, win win
Which state do you live in?
Bumble has a friend setting (BFF) separate from the dating sector of it. It’s in the menu top left of the app. I know several women who have made very good female friends through that option.
Pretend to smoke cigarettes outside of a club. Or smoke one.. they’ll flock
The key is to head out alone and strike up conversations with strangers. My best nights usually happen when I’m solo. You meet plenty of new people this way. Most folks who go out tend to stick with their groups all night, which, in my opinion, is a missed opportunity. Going out solo means approaching and chatting with everyone interesting. Say hi to people, ask about them, make observations, and so on.
Many are afraid to do this alone, but stepping out of your comfort zone leads to substantial personal growth. Regularly going out alone and talking to strangers can greatly boost your overall confidence. Trust me, America isn’t the issue. Sociability has declined globally due to technology. Take initiative and become someone who talks to other people. Keep it simple and don’t overthink it.
Just sit at the bar. Half the people are alone too.
You just find a decent looking bar, you bring something with you (like a book or whatever else you like to do), and you order food and drink. I promise if you pay attention to your interests and not what other people are thinking if, you’ll find some interesting people to chat with.
A lot of people usually ask me what I’m reading or mention how I’m dressed or say something about my eyes. Or I usually ask people about their lives and they often love talking about that. Also, sitting up at the bar is the best spot for fun, crude convo as well.
you are a woman, man will flock to you at bars lmao
Go to the pub and talk to the bartender, ask for the locals or if they can be your platonic wingman for any regular they know is cool