I’m a male, whos 17 years old for context. Never cared to think about my sexuality but I’m likely straight, been told im good looking but realistically im average, im australian and have bounced between tons of friendgroups. All of that is probably irrelevant in this context other than my gender though
I’ve been friends with many girls in the past, just as much as I have guys. Gender has never been a thought for me when it comes to behaving or judging other people.
Recently, I’ve become friends with a girl through my best friend and I think she has no interest in me as more than friends. There isn’t much banter between us and all our conversations are about random topics and a bit of humour. I just find this boring, to put it bluntly
Past friendships I’ve had with girls have been so fun, the flow of our interaction is easy and really enjoyable. There’s been a lot of banter and messing with each-other (in the prank way) in all of the past friendships I’ve had. I will admit they are different from guys, but not really in the dating sense, just the average personality if you know what I mean? The difference is irrelevant in the friendship sense, which has been almost always, if that makes sense.
There’s one small problem with these ‘past friendships’, in almost all of them, they were interested in me as more than just friends. The behaviour that they exhibited to me that I got used to under the pretence of ‘friendship’, was actually flirting or something similar.
Could this have effected my idea of what a friendship is with women, and thus effected how much I enjoy ‘normal’ friendships?
Or, is that normal even if they aren’t interested in me and this is just someone I don’t mesh well with personality wise?