a few days ago I finally pegged my boyfriend for the first time I thought we both enjoyed it but he’s barely spoke to me since it happened.
we both spoke about it a bunch before hand and it was fully consensual. He was a little worried when I first brought it up but after a little bit he told me he wanted to try it.
I don’t think I pressured him into it at all I just asked him to think about it and then he told me he’d try it after he thought about it a bit.
I’m honestly just really confused about this whole thing, like I thought he enjoyed it? he said he did afterwards. I really hope he’s okay I’m worried I’ve done something to upset him. I’ve asked him whats wrong but he just brushed me off
have I done something wrong here? how can I get him to talk to me?
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He might be feeling conflicted about it. There’s a stigma among men about butt stuff. Lots of men think that enjoying their ass getting fucked makes them gay despite the fact that that’s not how any of this works. So maybe he really likes it and is having an existential crisis over it.
Maybe just ask straight up what he’s thinking about what you guys did. Keep prodding until he gives you something concrete. Remind him that you’re his partner and he can speak his mind and express his feelings to you and that you guys are in this together. If he’s not giving you much, you can ask if he feels weird about what you guys did.
He probably is freaking out thinking about all the stigmas related to men enjoying anal. He probably needs reassuramce, tell him that you loved it and that you find manly that he got to explore his sexuality not caring about all the stigmas that pegging carries.
He may need time to start seeing pegging as a normal activity between you both.
This might help:
• Receivers: https://peggingparadise.com/2019/12/podcast-253-for-the-gentlemen