Does anyone have advice on what to do if all the bar spots are taken at a bar? I was left to sit at an empty table by myself and felt humiliated so I left, no hate to the staff or anything of course, they were great. But is this a thing that solo bar goers need to push through or are they things I should do differently. Any helps appreciated.
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By bar spots you mean the seats at the bartender table?
Why did you feel humiliated when the staff showed you an empty seat at an empty table (which is a logical thing to do as the person might want to sit solo)? Did you want to join random people? Couldn’t you you look for empty seats at a table that already has people and asked them if you can join them?
Sometimes there are ledges with no chairs across from the bar. I am not sure where you were, but if you go to a place with pool table or darts, sometimes you can play a game with strangers. If the whole place is busy, no one will notice you are there alone, so there’s that, unless you were ordering food. You could go on game night and watch the game. Could your squeeze in standing room if there are no stools. If something opens up while you are there, it would be easier to get a seat. Otherwise it might be slightly inconvenient to the server , just say you are sorry and give them a big tip. Good luck!
Bring something to work on, i like to bring a book or a notebook. I just like to work in a dark but noisy…ish spots, preferably not too crowded… uh hope that helps?
I hang at a bar and grill with pool tables, darts, and a bowling machine.
No one thinks anything about someone coming in solo. The best place to sit is at the bar, unless you are a pool player.
Start off by going there frequently and figure out what day or night has the people you want to know. Keep coming back on the regular. Make small talk. Play pool. Play darts. Go out where the smokers are and ask what’s good to eat here, etc.
The smokers are all chatty. Drink something out there and head back to the bar for another.
Leave after 2 drinks or your meal and come back another time or head over to another place you are trying out.
So many of my friends just came into the bar one day, and now we are all there on Friday night.