I’m a 26 year old female and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I’m one of those females that cannot orgasm from penetration and penetration usually feels like nothing to me (and sometimes painful or uncomfortable) so I’m not a big fan of it. I’ve always read online that some girls have to rub their clit during penetration for them to finish and my boyfriend has also encouraged me to do that since I can’t finish from penetration alone. I’ve tried it a few times and whenever I do it, I can’t feel it, it’s like almost numb.
Like when his penis is not in my vagina, I can feel it just fine and have no problem with finishing from external stimulation. But when he is actively thrusting during PIV, I will try to rub my clit and it’s like the pressure from his penis is causing me to be unable to feel any stimulation in my clitoris.
Anyone else have this issue?
Like I can feel my hand on it, so it’s not like completely numb, but it’s like it doesn’t have as much feeling as when he’s not inside me.
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My wife has this but she often have use a vibrator instead of masturbate and more specifically a magic wand to get off.
The magic wand in particular seems to be the most effective, and it is for the both of us actually.
I have noticed that the kind of pleasure I feel when being fucked (which happens in the womb, I think the thrusts cause the pelvic floor to move and thus the uterus to contract) is very different to the pleasure I feel in the clit, and I usually can’t feel both sensations at the same time. Maybe the vagus nerve is stimulated too much and gets confused? It’s strange.
I’m sorry you don’t feel pleasure being fucked though. While I don’t cum from penetration, it still feels really good.
How turned on are you when you have sex? Also, what’s going through your mind? Are you able to focus on the moment or are you worrying about how you look, whether not cumming will disappoint your partner etc? Cause so much of pleasure is in the mind. If you’re worrying you might be dissociating from sensations.
Went thru this w my ex turns out he just didn’t know what he was doing.
Ideas: sexual lubricant to be used every time you have sex, vibrator for your clit, therapist for dealing with sexual shame – I recommend all 3.
Also, I did have this issue too and what happened was the hood of my clitoris was getting pulled down over my clit during vaginal penetration so I couldn’t get good stimulation by rubbing it. A vibrator helped some. Vaginal childbirth helped because the skin became looser and anal sex also helped because the vaginal skin wasn’t disturbed by the penetration. Good luck.
Try having your legs straight (man on top) and not bent up like they do in a lot of porns. That’s how I cum from penetration. It will rub your clit.