Soo in my (F/20) last 2 year relationship (we broke up a few days ago) I tried multiple time obviously to give him (m/20) a blowjob. And it never made him cum.
I did hit the right stop while handjobbing him but I never made him cum. He did not want me to stop, he said he likes it and it also sometimes almost happend but never enough. On time he even said it makes him feel chilled and liked it in a relaxing way?
Soo I always thought maybe I do somthing wrong? But no matter what I tried to improve it did not work.
I have to say to this, he said he never masturbated and as he tried it never worked either, the first 5 months he also didn’t cum while we had sex but this worked after some time.
So do you have experience with this problem or know what went wrong?
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If he doesn’t cum from sex then it’s his problem, not yours. I also struggle to cum, especially from bjs. I can’t even remember if i actually did ever cum from a bj. I think it has to do with many things like watching porn, too much masturbating or even anxiety. I don’t think it has anything to do with you honestly
From my personal experience* BJs are hard to cum from because there is surprisingly not a lot of stimulation (as far as the pressure that wraps around the penis). And there are definitely good and bad blowjobs. But it sounds like it could be a number of things. Perhaps less masturbation, more exercise, and something I struggle with is anxiety. I get so in my head that it because hard for me to keep and erection then I worry about that and it becomes a vicious cycle until I either can’t cum or cum while soft.
Myself included, and several of my mates struggled to achieve orgasm from a bj or hj alone , no matter how long they / we tried , x
Most men don’t cum from BJs. Getting the suction right is very difficult. Most people can’t do great bjs and just liking the head lightly doesn’t do to much. Also try using hands on the shaft while you suck the head
I’m not a professional, but I’ve consistently been able to make every male partner I’ve had cum from a bj.
There’s a tendon on the bottom of the penis that runs all the way down past the balls. The best spots to stimulate it are just under the head and underneath the sack.
Flex your tongue so it’s hard and run it back and forth across the frenulum while you suck. Moan while you do this because your vocal cords emit vibrations that feel good, and also they want to know that you’re enjoying it. As you move your head up and down, grip the middle of the penis with your hand, squeeze lightly, and move it in tandem with your neck motions while slightly twisting. Don’t squeeze too hard or it’ll hurt him, and make sure it’s wet enough to reduce friction. While all of that is going on, take the thumb from your other hand and rest it directly underneath where the skin of the ballsack meets the groin. Get as close to the middle as you can – this is where that tendon lives. Gently rub that area at the same pace of the rest of your motions. Go at it like you’ve been starving for weeks and it’s your favorite meal. (Just leave your teeth out of it) Lol.
Outside of that, the dudes I’ve been with each had their own turn ons. Good eye contact is a must – to build off of that, pulling back with saliva dripping from your mouth (gives the mental image of the saliva being their cum). Moaning – as previously mentioned. Edging. Talking dirty – like “fill me with your cum” or in a begging voice “please, I just want to taste you”. Talking while your mouth is on it. Deep throating if you can. Experiment a little and communicate. Ask things like; What did(n’t)you like? What are some things you would like to try? What part felt the best? There’s a good chance he’s just in his head about it and needs some time to get comfortable. And the general rule for any kind of oral, be it a woman or man IMO, start slow, gradually speed up, then slow down again.
I hope this helps!
I haven’t encountered this, but it sounds like he could be going through some things, especially if he isn’t cumming after sex. Is he very experienced sexually? If not, perhaps he could be holding back and not even realizing it. A lot of times, the testicles are forgotten about when giving blowjobs. I can say from experience that also giving attention there will *quickly* increase your man’s pleasure. I would recommend that you play with his balls- stroke them lightly and then vary the speed you use. You can be giving the blowjob, go deep, while slowly incorporating the stroking of the testicles. I don’t want to give away all of my tricks, but hopefully the preceding helps you whenever your next time is.
Look like the man is the problem. He should see a doctor.
Nope. Just keep keeping on
From a guys perspective dirty talk is key