I am lost and I don’t know what to do. Any advice?
Recently me (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) haven’t had sex in about 2/3 weeks. Before we would have sex everyday for minutes to even hours.
I am hypersexual and he is not nor have a high drive to my knowledge. I am craving at the moment and I feel like I’m going mad to be honest. I’m getting constant flashback to moments and my fantasies are going wild.
The other day we did meet up, but I just gave him a BJ. We couldn’t go further cause of my time of the month, I almost lost my cool and said fuck it. Makes it worst is his scent triggers me every single fucking time. Now I’m resorting back on my bad habits (I thought I broke) which made it worse dealing with my hypersexuality; watching porn, constant daydreaming about sex, reading smut etc. (These are constantly btw).
I usually distract myself from my thoughts and feelings through work or my hobbies, but I don’t work often anymore since I am going to university again and I already caught up in 2 week advance in my courses and my hobbies bores me as of lately.
He knows I’m hypersexual as well, so he would always try to make me feel good (hance, the having sex everyday), but I believe he might have forgotten about that and I’m scared to remind him.
I don’t have toys or anything and my fingers are way too short to masturbate, so I gave up on that route.
He’s such a nice young man and I like him a lot, but only if he knew how I want to just tear him up. He just been going though a hard time and car issues, so our time together have drastically shortened. I’m being really patient cause I know he is going through a tough time, but fuck my brain (just dick dick dick dick dick!!!)is making me go crazy. I’ll wait as long as I have to, but I want to have sex badly.
TLDR: My boyfriend is going through a rough time and we haven’t been having sex recently and now I’m going slightly mad just about the thought of sex. Really nice young lad, I like him. ☺️
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Are you sure you’re hypersexual and it’s not possibly a porn addiction?
Buying toys seems to be your next best option though.
Have him do some bloodwork. Decreased testosterone or chemical imbalances can make a man lose his sex drive or even lose his ‘life drive’, where everything becomes bland and unmotivating to the point where one falls into depression. It might also be mental, of course, so maybe try having a deep discussion with him, see how he’s truly feeling, under the mask that every man has. Might be hard to get under there though.
My chaotic lifestyle and fluctuating health (both physical and mental) makes me sometimes crave sex multiple times a day or not want anything near my penis for weeks.
You could also try sex enhancing candy / chocolate that makes you extremely horny (on both of you), supplements of couple’s therapy. You said he knows about your high sex drive but you didn’t mention actually initiating things. Try wearing something sexy, sending some nudes before he gets home, try to get him aroused somehow.
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Did you consider buying toys then ?
Your fingers are too short to masturbate? That’s a new one. The girls I’ve dated who masturbate are mainly flicking the bean, not trying to jam their fingers up themselves. They might do that sometimes, but that’s not the main act. You clearly need to either learn how to take care of yourself or get some toys, it’s better than freaking out over 2-3 weeks worth of inaction.