tl;dr: what are some things I can say to rizz up a guy who wants to be dominant and assertive in bed but is shy and less experienced in kink?
We’re both bi men, but if you have examples of things that work for you that might be anatomically different from what I’d use, feel free to suggest those examples and I’ll just adapt lol.
The guy in question has some self esteem issues but has made a lot of progress, and we communicate about sex and kink a lot. He wants to be more dominant and we’ve been dabbling in BDSM, free use, and a bit of mild CNC for a while, but is often too shy to actually initiate. He’s having a hard time getting in the headspace.
I have a lot more experience being dominant and that comes naturally to me, but am enjoying the novelty of the subby role and am kinda just getting off on giving this guy a good time right now haha. Also just finding it to be a cute and intimate bonding process.
So, what can I say or do in the moment to really “set the scene” you know? Flirty / subby stuff to say while cuddling, during foreplay, etc. to bring out the dominant side?
An example of something that worked pretty well: recently was telling him pretty matter of fact that I had already jerked off twice before he woke up, but that I was obsessed with making him cum anyway. So don’t worry about my pleasure just tell me what to do to make him cum and I’ll do it. It got the response I was looking for.
Ideas for similar scenarios / approaches maybe?