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  1. I find it helpful to actively listen and ask open-ended questions to keep the conversation flowing.

  2. I just say random shit taking cues from my surroundings. I just looked up from my phone and saw a bottle of Windex and 409. “Do you really need both?? I mean windex has cleaning abilities so why can’t I just use fucking windex on everything?? Pretty sure I can’t clean a window with 409 but I am quite certain a toilet cleaned with windex is better than a toilet not cleaned at all 🤷🏻‍♂️.” I’ve done that shit for years and it works. Because of dumb shit like that women say I’m “charming. Charismatic. So funny.” 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

  4. If you have severe social anxiety like I did, this might help:

    Visualize a fountain of love above the person you’re going to talk to’s head, and imagine the words you say are going to cause this fountain of love to pour on them. Rather than focus on the fear that rises in your chest of “oh no, how are they going to respond” focus on the fountain of love over their head.

    Memorize:
    -where are you from?
    -where did you grow up?
    -what do you like to do for fun?
    -what type of movies/tv shows/books/music do you like
    -what have you been up to

    additionally memorize:
    -what’s been the best part of your day so far
    -what’s been the worst part of your day so far
    -what’d you have for breakfast/lunch/dinner

    (You can use the last 4 everyday.)

    Treat additional questions as a chance to be creative. You can monkey branch off of memorized questions and brainstorm up new questions in relation to those.

    Contribute information about yourself as well, and give compliments.

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    (The reason you use memorized questions is because you don’t want to spend a bunch of energy figuring out what to say – you want to have questions ready to fire off.

    If you have mixed feelings about the phoniness or insincerity of using memorized questions, realize the fact you care how the other person will respond means the questions aren’t insincere.)

    Treat everyone as a friend, and don’t put them on a pedestal.

  5. This is with my friends too 😭 get too scared abt what they think of me and can’t think of anything to say. Anyone got tips on that?

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