I (16m) get bullied by girls, ignored by guys. I am very quiet, but do talk to people when not in a group. At least I try to, but they completely ignore me and don’t talk to me when anywhere else. They will literally say bye to everyone except me, when I’m right there. I don’t know what to do. I try, I fail.
Before anyone says “Be yourself!!”, I am myself. I used to mask my personality when I had friends… That is way, way too draining, I hate it. I’ve given up on trying to fake, now I just don’t speak up because I’ll be bullied or ignored for anything I say.
I don’t know what to do.
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Unfortunately at that age, you’re still going to have to fake that personality if all the guys have that macho, jocky personality.
But if you really can’t do it, then see if there’s any lonely looking guys out there. Try to be friends with them. Try to be friends with the guys who seem more artsy-ish.
And if none of that works, then just hold it together for two more years. Once you graduate high school and go to college, that’s when you can start over and make new friends.
Darn, that’s rough. You sound a bit like me at that age. Best advice I can give you, learn to profile people — just read up on enneagram and MBTI. It will help you figure out what you can do to develop your own personality in a healthy way, and it will help you figure out how to treat other people right.
Good luck.
The best thing you can do is not try hard, yes is difficult but as a person who got bullied since I was 4 in every school I went, I realised I worried and wasted so much valuable time trying to be accepted in a group. I started drawing in highschool, I loved playing video games, I got along with people from different ages, younger and older than me, from work or classes, used to do Kung Fu, belly dancing, Zumba, boxing. Exercise keeps you happy, and often people that exercise are happy too, so you can have good conversations with them. Join a club? Or take classes to distract yourself.