Men aged 28-50, how long do you start to take the relationship more seriously while dating someone and what do you consider a LTR?

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1. I’m serious about every relationship from the start

2. I don’t do relationships anymore.

   But when I did, it would take a a couple to 6 months for me decide to date her. An LTR to me is anything of a year or more.

3. Every relationship progresses differently, so I don’t think there’s an XYZ date or timeframe when it becomes serious, and it also depends on what you define as “serious”. In terms of long-term, I’d say generally say over 6 months. But, all of my relationships have either lasted less than 6 months or over 2 years and not really much in between.

   With my now fiancé, our relationship progressed very quickly and by the third date or so, it was abundantly clear that we were both very compatible and that it was going to be a long term relationship so it was pretty serious off the bat. In terms of being “serious” she moved into my home with me just after a year, was sure I wanted to marry her, had regular discussions about “our” future,

   With my ex I dated for 2 1/2 year before her, it was a much slower progression. I don’t think we really considered ourselves officially “dating” until maybe the 7th or 8th date and that’s just how it naturally progressed.

4. It’s more of a feeling than a timeframe. It can be from the end of the first date to months later. The whole idea of initial dating is to figure out if a long term, serious relationship is something both parties can be compatible with. This can happen whenever both parties feel ready.

5. depends on the woman. can be from the start, could take a few weeks/months or it might never happen.

6. You learn after a while when you get older that you don’t have all the time in the world, so you don’t want to waste any you got. So I’m serious about everything anymore, including not be serious. So I don’t waste time on a relationship if there’s not promise on it being a lot more.

7. Like two weeks and it turns serious in my books lol

   I would consider anything over a year as long term.

8. Depends on what I’m looking for and my intentions. Potentially right off the bat or never.

9. I’m serious from date #3. I don’t consider it a LTR unless you live together. I don’t care if you’ve been together for 14 years, if you don’t live together, you’re not serious yet.

10. I was hooking up a lot at the time, and he was just another hookup to me, at first: judge away I don’t care.

    Then I knew, probably a week into s*x and hanging out, that my fiancé was The One. I just liked everything about him, and I was like, I don’t wanna keep looking. This is all good. All of this.

    Been 7 months and I consider it LTR, absolutely.

    ETA: I’m 33 years old.

11. Wow, this is such a thought-provoking topic! 🤔

12. If it’s a serious relationship, it’s serious from date 1.

13. It highly depends upon how the relationship progresses. A man should never take a relationship as a serious relationship from the start. There are always mileposts along the way telling a man how things are progressing positively or negatively.

14. I know after one date if I wanna take it seriously. Usually one date. Or even before the first date.

15. From the start of a relationship till the end of it I’m always serious not to joke with the one I love

16. Most men are serious about relationships. Usually if a man isn’t it’s because the woman isn’t relationship material.

    Look at it this way. What percentage of men would you say you would consider marriage material? That’a roughly the percentage of women men find to be marriage material.

17. It’s not about how long I take,

    It’s about how fast the woman has disqualified herself for a serious relationship.

    I am not the same Horny boy I used to be.

    So now, I am looking for a good, a matching, or a quality internal character in a woman.

    If she doesn’t show any, or, even better, if she is rocking a SERIES of relationship disqualifying features or DEAL BREAKERS,

    Then she will wait forever because I’m not doing it.

    In the fuckzone she stays. Forever. Like the phantom prison realm in Supeman.

18. To me any intimate connection with another person is serious, even if it’s mutually agreed it’s a short term thing. Long term to me is when you reach the point where you’re both committing to each other, and agreeing you’re “together” for the foreseeable. Isn’t really about time, it’s more about just being on the same page and knowing you’ve both gotten that serious about each other.

19. What a strange age range.

20. I don’t go into any relationship thinking that LTR is off-limits (some of my best relationships, and even my marriage, started as casual sex), and it usually takes a few months before I know if it has potential for that.

    Really depends on the person though, if the chemistry is there from the start it’s undeniable.

21. The same as any relationship.

22. I do not date. It’s mostly a waste of time now