Hey /r/sex! Long time lurker here. So, me (24M) and my boyfriend (23FtM) have been together for a good couple of months and it’s going fantastic so far. Great communication, fantastic chemistry, and our sexual compatibility is through the roof. Only, one slight issue we’ve run into.
Him and I are close to the same height (around 5’3-5’4), but I’m maybe an inch or two shorter. Hard to tell for sure. What this means is that when we’ve attempted doggy style (with him receiving) I’ve had a really hard time getting inside of him from behind while kneeling. Because of the height difference, it feels like I have to thrust upwards rather than straight in, which can be really difficult. The only way I’ve been able to make it sort of work was by kneeling on one leg and having the other leg up or using both legs to sort of squat while thrusting.
But both positions have proven kind of uncomfortable, and it makes me sad because most times we try it I end up getting tired and frustrated and we give up. Any suggestions on making this position happen? Accessories, something with how we’re doing it wrong? All help is appreciated.
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Why not just ask them to bring their knees further up to get the ass down?
As a male that likes to be pegged, my wife and I have ran into this on occasion. Basically my normal bent over position may not be the appropriate height for her. It usually just takes experimentation and verbal guidance from her on how I need to adjust to receive.
We have tried a door mounted sex chair, but the angles on that don’t work for either of us to receive. A liberator chair is great if you have the funds. It definitely makes sex much easier for both of us. You can just lay over the edge for doggy and adjust to whatever height needed.
I know this doesn’t apply to your situation, but a bigger dildo has helped in our case. Sometimes length can make it easier when angles don’t work out exactly.
She’s 5’7″ and I’m 6’3″ but we still make it work. I don’t figure a 2 inch height difference should cause much issue.