Ok sooo
Is there such thing as best of both worlds?
Ex husband, fantastic provider financially. If I wanted it I got it. Lacking in the emotional abilities. Never made feel exceptionally loved or admired.
Current situation, makes me feel like a goddess on earth. Worships the ground I walk on. But has literally never had a job. Doesn’t have a vehicle. Lived off his parents dime his whole life.
Is there a best of both worlds? Am I asking too much? Is there a blue collar man who works and treats me like a princess. I don’t need a sugar daddy but a job and vehicle to take me on dates. And make me feel pretty.
Helllllppppp
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It’s hard. The guy with a good job will dedicate himself to it meaning there is less time to give you. When the no job guy eventually gets a job will he treat you the same?
No, that’s almost certainly impossible for you.
You don’t value men as human beings, only for what they can give you.
You form a relationship with someone then over time you increase your demands until the partner can’t provide it, then you dump them. You’ll keep doing this until you learn to think of someone other than yourself.
Where are you from?
You won’t find that good fit if you’re wasting your time in relationships that aren’t a good fit.
Like…I wouldn’t even consider starting to date someone who has no job and no transportation (unless there’s really good public transport like in NYC or Europe). There would be no first date. Fiscal irresponsibility is not attractive to me.
I (45F) make a lot more than my partner but he’s a hard worker (carpenter) and I just happen to be in a more lucrative field. But he lives within his means and is fiscally responsible. We aren’t super lovey dovey showering each other with compliments and gifts or anything. But we are affectionate and enjoy each other a lot.
I don’t think expecting someone to shower you with compliments to make you feel pretty is very sustainable for most people. But telling someone they look nice on a special dress up day or telling someone you love them and to have a good day when they’re off to work? That’s easily attainable.
“Never made feel exceptionally loved or admired.”
He put a house over your head and provided for you but because it wasn’t some Disney romance you ended it? Many such cases.
find u boy ur age w/ the job!! u can have both