Maybe it would have been a given in a two parent household or maybe not. Raising a son alone and hit the struggling teen years. Just want to check in for some insight.

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  3. How to treat women right (not saying I don’t, just took longer than usual)

  4. I just wish my dad didn’t have such shitty opinions about women. I heard that shit so much from like 14 up to now. I’ve had to unlearn a lot of shitty thought processes. I’m able to let it roll off of me now when he says some dumb shit. But it didn’t really help at all that my mom was not a good example of a parent to me.

  5. Taxes and financial information mainly. I was raised by a single father and he did the best he could with 3 boys and one girl.

  6. I wish my mom wouldn’t keep shit talking my dad 24/7. My mom was the best and would do anything for me but I don’t think she knew how damaging it is to a son when she’s vents all her frustrations about men and why they suck.

  7. I wish i would’ve learned how tough my mom had it raising me on her own only after she died I saw the financial end of everything struggling to keep up.

  9. I didn’t learn to stand up for myself until I was in my 20’s. My mom is a phenomenal human being but taught me to avoid conflict at every turn and because of that I always backed down to bullies and bosses and such. I’m very thankful for the life I had growing up, but I could have used a touch more killer instinct.

  10. As a man who grew up without a father, I wish I had some kind of positive male figure in my life. Most of my family lived in another country.

    My mom tried her best but it just isn’t the same.

    Assuming you’re a single mom.

  11. Just dating strategies from an adult male. My mom was very emotional and she impressed a woman’s view toward me and that wasn’t a good thing.

    Young girls need a man to to lead and I wasn’t really taught to do that. I had to learn the hard way.

  12. I learned absolutely nothing about being a man. Things like how to shave. How to shake hands. Etc.

  13. Pretty much all of it, my dad left before I was 1 , mother hated me all and all just shitty childhood. When wife and me found out she was pregnant a friend who knew about my childhood asked if I was scared to raise a kid I said yes but I know alot of what not to do

  14. Technically raised in a two parent home but with an absent father.

    He had the ability to teach me to build and maintain things like houses and cars, but he didn’t have time because he was always working, either his job or a house project, never just spending unstructured time with us when things like teaching happen.

    When I hit my rebellious teens and it was too late to already have a solid relationship, they gave up and sent me to private school, then when that didn’t work out, military boarding school.

    Had I been sent to the local public school, I could have taken all three wood shop, metal shop, and auto shop.

    I could have been taught those skills despite my dad being absent, but they thought it was more important to have a “better” high school so I could go to a “better” college, but I didn’t end up going to college so it was a complete waste of money and time. I didn’t even get a good education because the faculty was falling apart and they started fudging grades upwards the year I started. But that was unforseeable.

    When high school comes, take advantage of schools offering to teach PRACTICAL knowledge, not just what looks best for college. It’s an opportunity to learn things that customarily come from the “other” parent, shops classes for dads, home ec for moms. Then even less well funded schools will have alternatives to calculus and statistics like business math or personal finance, which are magnitudes more valuable for someone not pursuing math or science degrees.

    Public schools, especially in the US, are not great when looking at certain metrics, but I went to and competed in sports with many many private schools from all over the south east US and not one of them offered technical skills classes, because they ALL prioritized college entry and not well rounded students

    Sorry if I rambled or got off topic, felt good to get it off my chest. I feel like I’m far more helpless than I could have been, and that it was by design. I lived right next to public schools with technical classes but poor college entry statistics, so they weren’t even considered when I begged my parents to go anywhere but military school (in between school years, after I had stuck it out for a year and was still suicidal). My parents had me research and prepare presentations on every school within 50 miles then shot down every single one with a sentence or two.

    I’m still salty if you can’t tell

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