So, a bit of background: We’ve been together for almost 6 years now, and our sex life is rocky at best. I’m on a ridiculous amount of antidepressants and my sex drive just isn’t what it used to be. She’s been toying with the idea for a while but a few nights ago really got into it, having me describe what I’d do to another woman. I’m not against the idea in principle, but was looking for advice on how you lovely people here handled it when your SO wanted that. Thanks in advance.
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Highly recommend. Just communicate
Do what you want with my advice, even just throw it to the trash because it won’t make sense to everybody but here’s what I think.
Just break up.
Your woman is supposed to be your peace, your happy place .
And yet you still need antidepressants? And lost sex drive now, and you need meds ?
For me the way to know if the woman you are with is your wife material is ” does she make me happy? Does she give me peace, am I fully satisfied in all ways she could satisfy me?” If it’s a yes then Wife her up.
You’re already gonna get challenged by the outside world, if at home you can’t have happiness and peace then she’s not the one.
Long story short I advice you break up, quit the meds and hit the gym , physical exercise is amazing not just for the body but especially the mind.
I dare you to say you aren’t happy and need antidepressants after you get a 6pack.
And along the way you will also look for a woman who will be your happy place/peace and do anything for you.
My opinion only…..Threesomes are for couples that are VERY secure in their own sexuality and relationship. It’s not a quick fix to a stale or rocky relationship and to be quite honest is not usually worth the extra stress or issues that pop up afterward.
A 3sme is not gonna support a relationship that isn’t 100% into the interactions. You talk about what you would do with another woman but I assume this is her bargaining for one with another guy. Think seriously, you are gonna watch your girl get railed potentially by a guy with a bigger dick and who is better at it than you although you won’t know this until its too late. If you are comfortable with this image then you are good to go. Bear in mind as well thst you aren’t going to be much good in ffm if you are struggling with just fm on the pills. Best of luck.
Never did it but Iv always heard that you dont ever wanna add another person into the mix if your relationship isnt 1000% solid!! It will make things worse.
Maybe shes suggesting this in hopes of getting your sexual desires back… But theres also a chance that this is her first step at getting another male in the bedroom to bang her. be ready for that threesome too, if ur open to the woman coming in.
Oh dear god, so sex life is rocky, you have a hard time getting turned on right now/low libido with your partner, but now she’s going to see you screw some other girl, probably be turned on like you haven’t in a while because it’s a new girl and new experience, then be jealous you don’t get turned on like that with her, don’t get hard like that for just her, don’t moan/make noises like that with her, won’t do whatever sexually with her but did with 3rd person… she attribute every once of your higher libido/turned on status to this other girl and not the experience in general. Please, just don’t until your sec life is back on track. Maybe she’s bi and just wants to have sex with someone and figured you’d say yes to a girl and wouldn’t be considered cheating since it’s with a girl. Have you thought about how this girl will be able to please your girl like you haven’t been able to for a long time now??