When does jealousy go from “aw they care” to being obnoxious and ugly?

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1. When they expect someone not to talk to the opposite sex.

   If I see a dude hitting on my wife and go introduce myself to him so he understands and she doesn’t have to awkwardly shut him down, that’s one thing, it’s another if I tell her she cannot talk to men.

2. Jealousy is always ugly

3. When they use it as an excuse to stop you from doing stuff.

4. When it’s only 1 sided and a double standard.

5. When I can’t have woman friends because of deep insecurity even if I’ve known the friends for longer than I’ve known you and you I’m wanted to stop talking to them.

6. When it becomes “I don’t want you to hang out with them”

7. When they start trying to control you or “change” you in order to satisfy their jealousy.

8. For me. If someone is jealous at someone trying to get my attention
   Ill never think its obnoxious and ugly

   But if someone is jealous against me it just becomes ugly immediately

9. I’m married now, so the scale is different than just dating. But when I *was* dating… it’s nice to know you’d be missed. It’s nice to know you’re valued. Even if it’s just “I’m glad you’re with me, and not that other girl” or something.

   And I used to meet girls, girls that I wasn’t dating, who’d say things like “I’m not jealous”, but say it in the key of ‘if a guy vanished entirely, I wouldn’t ask where they went’. And some people might see that as liberating, I just saw it as not giving a shit.

   Where it breaks down is the idea that you’re *going* to cheat and that they need to police you until it inevitably happens. Or, worse, thinking that other, completely uninvolved, people are the problem.

10. When they start getting jealous of things their mind fabricated

11. When it results in a lack of trust in your partner.

12. At 1.21 jealowatts

13. The moment you suggest I have to change things in my life to assuage your jealousy is that point. That and if you keep on bringing it up makes it annoying.

14. The first time it happens.