M34 started dating super busy F34 woman with a lot of things happening in her life. She just opened her small business and works uber driver to be able to pay bills.
her bio said that she don’t like chating on messenger,sms etc and preffers live interaciton.
first 3 dates where nice. I would say solid 9/10. chatting between dates like 1.5/10. she only wrote me first once in 3 weeks. and sometimes chatting will stop if it ends without question mark from my side and then there can be dead silence for few days until I message her again. my low self esteem hits hard on this.
dates where going well tho. we started kissing on second date. on third date I put her on my lap. we holded hands when we were walking and when I drove her home I put my hand on her leg and she put her hand on mine.
then she canceled 2 dates, because she was super busy with her work and apologized.
then she had minor car accident on friday (works at uber). and after accident she can’t work there until she fixes her car. I understand that this brings much chaos and stress in to life. I asked if we gonna still meet today (I taking her from her home) she said she didn’t know and then left me on ice without any further messages.
after those 3 failed dates my insecurities started hitting and I tought that she don’t want to see me anymore but not saying that to me. I felt especially bad when she left me hanging on friday. on saturday she posted story on fb that she drinks wine at cafe. that gave me even more anxiety.
I thought I will start distancing myself from her and wont write her for few days and see if she will write first.
sunday evening she wrote me. and invited me for a walk.
this is 4th date. she was cold about physical contact. she hugged me but turned her cheek when I tried to kiss her when we meet up. she put her bag on her left side when we drove and that made much harder to put my hand on her leg. (on third date she put her hand on mine when I did that). I tried few more advances on touch and kissing on date when she rejected my advances and said that don’t want any physical contact when shes supper stressed (car accident\*).
she browsed her phone for a minute and I saw tinder notifications for new message and new match.
on date end I tried to kiss her but she rejected me again. After that I said I want to make things more clear and that I like her company and asked if its going somewhere. she said that she’s confused and don’t know, because there is too much things happening in her life atm. I asked about next date. should I try to schedule it or let her suggest day for date, because of her busy work schedule. she chose second.
she’s very beautiful girl and I even have insecurity about why she started going on dates with me when beauty wise she looks way out of my league.
but I wondering whats happening right now. if she’s really confused and didn’t decided about me?
if she really didn’t wanted anything physical because of huge amount of stress or she just started do friendzoning me ? but if she’s loosing interest in me why she would invite me today on date in the first place? or she just exploring potential partners?
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If we’re to consider the worst case scenarios, then yes all these things you listed can be happening but I think you should change the way you see the whole thing.
If a girl is ok to have at least 2 dates with you then it’s a clear sign that she’s not ”out of your league”. The moment you tell yourself this, you position herself in such a high pedestal that any physical/emotional contact you get from her will feel like ”a gift” to you. And trust me it’ll change the way that you behave with her and she’ll feel it too!
She’s not interested.
She sounds uninterested. Sorry. Move on.