my boyfriend and i got together a while ago, he is a couple year younger than me and we both are in our 20s. at first being with him is the most amazing thing i could ever think of. He understood me fully, he talked to me calmly, and everything a woman would ever dream of, he had given me.
Everything was fine until I showed my “true self” to him. I was really sensitive and I’ve got bunch of things from the past that haven’t been healed yet. So every time something happened that triggered my trauma, i couldn’t control my emotion and i know that was my fault. Sometimes i let it out on him. But then again, something made me realize that he loved me dearly so i changed myself for him. I gave him the feedback he deserved, or even better. I was barely angry at anything anymore I showed him how much I love him that I changed myself.
Then last night, we were just having a normal conversation through the phone call until I mentioned I wanted to do some beauty treatments so I would look better. And I guess he was joking saying that “you wanna look good for other people now?” and idk why it triggered my trauma so much. Once my ex was really possessive and said the same thing he said last night with some other horrible stuff accusing me of cheating on him by trying to look good for other people.
So since i knew my bf was joking, i tried to calm him down and said i would do it for him. Then he kept on saying the same thing again and again. Few minutes after that, I tried to explain to him how what he said really triggered me because it reminded me of my ab*sive and possessive ex. He didnt say anything but he told me to sleep so i did as he told me to. But when i woke up he refused to talk and i asked him if anything bad happened while I slept but he refused to tell me and told me to sleep again. I listened to him bc i didnt want to make matters worse. and this morning i saw everything was better, so i wanted to talk about what happened last night to him but once i asked he immediately hung up and rejected all phone calls i made. i really dont know what to do. he didnt even give me any hint of problem that i made and yet he kept giving me the silent treatment. was it my fault that i opened up about my trauma in this relationship?
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you’re dating another toxic guy.
INFO: When you say “triggered”, what do you mean? What happens to you?
And when you say “I gave him the feedback he deserved or even better”, what does that mean?
Shocker the 20yr old boy is having a tantrum🤔
What you should do is take a break from boyfriends all together and focus on education, work, life experiences, friendships and building yourself up.