We have been friends since I was in middle school . He has help me cope with my childhood trauma & my past relationship abuse . His girlfriend hates me & I tried being nice to her . He loves me & I love him too . He’s the only person I have . I’m a college student and he drives trucks for a living so he’s hardly home yet he takes care of my finances and he also takes care of my son . He’s not married to her . & I know I should respect her decision but I need him & I love him . He has helped me with suicide attempts & also going through terrible health things where he took off work to help me after my operation . Is it wrong of me not to respect her decision ? Because he’s my person . & he won’t leave me alone and I won’t leave him either we need & love each other a lot . Guys & girls can be friends & go places together , right ? As long as we’re not crossing boundaries I don’t see anything wrong with it . I don’t want to lose my best friend .
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*He loves me & I love him too . He’s the only person I have*
*he takes care of my finances and he also takes care of my son*
*He’s not married to her*
*I know I should respect her decision but I need him & I love him*
*he’s my person . & he won’t leave me alone and I won’t leave him either we need & love each other a lot*
***As long as we’re not crossing boundaries***
Are you of sound mind or just regular delulu??
Every single line above is a boundary broken. You sound like you are married couple not “Friends”. You may be justifying as you haven’t / aren’t having sex but the above basically sounds like you are the one in the relationship, he is definitely supporting your emotional needs.
Fully understand where his GF is coming from, especially when he is away from her also for long periods due to his job and then sounds like you take up all his emotional needs and time when he returns.
Re-evaluate what you want, Why arent you in a relationship? sounds like you are 99% there, either that or LET HIM GO.
My god, I can totally see why the gf would be unconfortable with this “friendship”! Reread everything you wrote, you are emotionally intimate and crossing every boundary, except the physical. You are acting as a entitled gf and wondering why she has a problem? You need to take à step back and stop being so emotionally obsessed and absorbed with him that you feel like it is à competition.
She is his gf and yes it is awful of you not to respect her decision because from what I am reading, you have no boundaries. You are emotionally dependent on him and that is not goood for him, for her, and mostly for you. Take à step back and respect their relationship.
are you serious? you are acting so entitled! yes men and women can be friends, when boundaries are respected!!! and you are crossing so many of them. you are acting as a jealous gf when you are just the friend. you are emotionally obsessed with him because you need him but you are completely disrespecting their relationship.
**he won’t leave me alone and I won’t leave him either we need & love each other a lot**
that line just reeks of disrespect and emotional cheating. she has every reason to hate if this is how you act with her man. you are emotionally and financially dependent on him. get some distance and work on yourself. surround yourself by other friends
Why even make a post if you will fight every person commenting on it. Anyone with a sense of logic would read and say the same. Your friendship is crossing nearly every boundary there is. I understand you don’t want to admit that, but every person here will tell you the same.