hey all. I’ve been having this problem pretty much constantly my whole life. I tend to have a pretty flat affect and my voice carries (I also have little control over my volume and can accidentally be too loud easily). I don’t have any clue what a “rude” voice sounds like but even when I think I’m sounding polite and genuine I often get told I’m being rude or mean.
This causes so many problems with customers, peers, people in marching band, and authority figures and I just don’t know how to fix it. I don’t really know what I’m doing that’s rude but I don’t want to be rude…people just always tell me I am.
What can I do to remedy this?