How do you feel about dating someone older than your oldest siblings?

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1. I’ve always had a limit of dating someone at least 1 year younger than my oldest sibling but I recently felt really curious going past that age and idk if it would be weird to be honest. I’m only worried about how my older sibling would feel about it

2. Currently doing so. It didn’t even occur to me as a thing to think about until this question.

3. I am the oldest sibling. I’m 27, I think my highest age limit would be 32 maybe?

4. I don’t mind it. We got married and just had our second child. Age never mattered to me. Only their character, and he is the greatest thing to have ever happened to me. He’s amazing, and I know I’m loved. I know that’s not always the case for people, but it’s different strokes for different folks. It’s all about intention, IMO.

5. I married a man 5 years younger than my parents 💀

6. Nope. They need to be in the same phase of life as me.

7. I’m the oldest. Currently dating someone three years older than me.

8. Age gaps are not a problem if both people are looking for the same thing in a relationship and there are no other power imbalances. I’ve dated people 10 years older and younger than myself.

9. I’m the eldest…

   We’re all separated by 1year.. so the age gap between me and my youngest brother is only ~4.5years. So let’s say I’m the youngest and my oldest sibling is 4.5years older than me…

   I’d have no issue dating someone that age.

10. I’m the eldest sibling. However, I’m aro-ace.

    I would feel worried for + creeped out if my youngest sibling (6 years younger) were to date someone older than me.

    It wouldn’t be the worst thing ever if my other sibling were to date someone a year or so older than me I guess but that’s because we’re only 2 years apart in age.

11. one has nothing to do with the other?

12. My husband is 6 months older than my older sister, we’re 5 years apart. It’s fine.

    Would be weird when we were teens, but we met at 28 and 33, not out of the ordinary at all.

13. My brother is only older by 2 years, so not strange to me. As a 27 year old I don’t think dating someone up to the age of around 35 would bother me at all.

14. never going to happen. my sister is 15 years older than me.

    it would be way too weird now at 25 as our lives absolutely shouldn’t be even remotely at the same stage. and later on when it wouldn’t make much of a difference stage wise… i’ll be honest, i wouldn’t want maybe 10-15 good years with a person and be a caretaker from my 50s onwards. yes there are fit people 70+, but the risk is just so much higher.

15. I’m the oldest sibling sooo… But it kind of depends how old everyone is. Like, my youngest sister is 2 years younger than me, she’s 22, so dating someone slightly older than me would be totally normal. For me personally is more about being in the same place in life. I’m 24, almost 25 so I’d probably date someone 30 max.

16. That’s fine. My oldest sibling is only 7 years older than me and when you’re 50, give or take a few years, 7 years is nothing.

17. My husband is older than my eldest sibling by under a year. But he’s only 4 years older than me so I don’t see it as an issue.

18. I think it depends on how far apart you and your siblings are in age. My oldest sibling is a little over a year older than I am and my husband is 3 years older than her. Although her current bf is older than us, she has dated people my age or younger too. On the other hand, if your oldest sibling is 15 years older than you, I wouldn’t date someone older than them

19. Currently doing so. My oldest sibling is 2.5 years older than me, that’s not a big age difference. My fiancé is 8 years my senior but he is still younger than my favorite cousin.

    Of course, there is a difference between dating a 46 y/o when you are 38, and dating a 28 y/o when you are 20. However it is not really about age but stages in life.

20. My eldest sibling is 14 years older than me. That is my hard limit.

21. I married him.

22. My oldest sibling is 28 and I’m 36 so I hope the person I date would be older than 28. I like to say 5 years older max and 3 years younger max.