What made your partner stand out from the crowd?

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1. Out of the theoretical crowd?
   He would ask me questions to understand my thought processes, what made me come to an opinion or conclusion, he really listened.
   We are no longer partners but I will always respect him.

2. Out of the online dating crowd, it was how much of my profile he referenced and the interesting questions he asked.

   Plus he specifically asked me out on a DATE. Not casual drinks, not a “hang out”, a date. He made it very clear he was interested in dating me.

3. I have never met someone as genuinely and consistently kind and gentle as they are. I immediately felt as though I could be whoever I was with them without judgement, and that feeling was right.

4. He is interesting and has passions beyond „getting laid and make money“. He is fun to listen to even if I have no knowledge about his special interests. He is himself and not some weird patch-up work of „how to act like a man“ articles. He makes me laugh, he snuggles me and lets me snuggle him… he smells great. He was a shy gentleman but still dared to ask me out… he is for me the sexiest guy, idk.

5. He didn’t really. But I found out he was special once I got to know him.

6. Nothing particularly out of the crowd; I thought he seemed nice and attractive and my type, but so are plenty of people.

   What really made him stand out as a viable long-term partner was how… solid he seemed; honest, loyal, and utterly trustworthy. I loved especially that he gave me time and space to figure out my own feelings. I never felt like I was auditioning for the role of Love Interest in the grand story of his life, the way I did so many men before him. I felt like he saw me for me and understood I was a complete person without him, with my own motivations and full interiority.

7. We’re not together but considering I’ve had a crush on him for over 6 months now, I just give my unprompted piece of mind.

   I think it was the way he talked. He can be so passionate, so funny and honest. Never had I ever met someone who was so open and thus I’m able to talk to him about everything as well.

8. Easy to talk to, instant connection and same thought process. He was witty and funny. Genuinely cared about what I thought about current events.

9. His looks, intelligence, his kindness and also his ability to stand up for himself and others. I’ve got a very strong personality and I’m usually attracted to more mellow guys (guys with strong personalities and I don’t mesh lol) That can be a problem though because most of the mellow guys I dated couldn’t communicate and tell me when they felt I was wrong (either shut down or acted passive aggressive) nor would they stand up to people (example- multiple guys just ended a great relationship we had because their parents were racist and didn’t like me). Overall my husband had every quality I wanted and needed in a man. I never met someone like that before. I knew on the third date we’d probably get married and we did 2 years later!

10. He’s 6’4 lol easy to spot him

11. The most intriguing and charming person ive ever met. Thats why we are back together after we broke up 4 years ago

12. He was clearly interested in getting to know me as a person rather than it just feeling like an interview or working through a checklist. 🤷🏼‍♀️

13. We were prepping for a dnd game and he wrote a really interesting and unique backstory for his character. It was a bit dark and just showed hem was someone a bit more interesting and creative than the average. When we started chatting more in depth it was his intelligence and humour.

14. I’m naturally drawn to honest genuine men. I don’t want to have to guess what they are thinking or wonder if what they say matches their thoughts.

15. He was long tan and handsome lol

16. I can more easily say what makes the crowd something that I don’t want too close: being on the prowl, every interaction one he is winning or losing. False charm and real rage.

    Meeting people isn’t a test that you are failing unless the other person does what you want. It’s a gift of exchange: getting to learn something, have a laugh, know someone a bit better. Even if that someone is yourself.

17. I’m flattered that you think there was a crowd

18. He was patient enough to wait more than 3 years for me to finish grad school. At the time, it could have taken me even longer to finish than I did, and he didn’t care how long it took. He was willing to date me as long as necessary.