I just got into a relationship with my girlfriend, and she’s the most sex positive person I’ve ever been with. every one of my past relationships my partner has always been kind of stingy and not really forward or experimental sexually, so that’s what I’m used to. but my girlfriend told me last night while we were cuddling that I’m very respectful and she gives me full permission to “not be respectful anymore”. I know what she means by that, she wants me to be more forward and initiate things sexually more frequently, she was like putting my face in her neck wanting me to give her a hickey and she kept moving my hand down to her ass and stuff and it’s putting me in a strange spot. because I’ve always wanted to be in a relationship like this, I’m really glad she’s telling me this, but at the same time I have pretty much no idea what I’m doing because my other relationships were never like this. so i don’t know what moves to make or what to say or what to do and when to do it, but I dont want to bore her by just not doing anything. so how am I supposed to initiate stuff with her?
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Touch her more, slap her ass, hold her neck tightly from behind while kissing her, talk dirty. Be more blunt, so for example if you want to initiate sex, kiss her and push your hand into her shirt or pants. Stuff like that
Treat her like she is, to a degree, something you own. A toy to play with, or a subsurvient maid who you can also fuck.
Use her, and *tell* her how you want to use her. Make her do what you want, and do it authoritatively.
Get your aftercare game up too for when playtime is over!
Rather than “Do you want to suck my cock?”, say “I want you to suck my cock.” Rather than “I want you to suck my cock”, say “Suck my cock.” Rather than “suck my cock”, say “Suck my cock, slut.” You can escalate gradually so it feels natural.