I’m a 24(M) my girlfriend is a 22(f) we’ve been together almost two years now. When we first started dating it was my first real relationship, and hers too. We used to have sex almost daily sometimes a couple times a day, now we’re sitting at about 2-3 times week. Which I understand is totally normal. We work different schedules and such. She tells me I please her, but for some reason I don’t believe it. I usually perform oral everytime we have sex, and it always seems like she’s about to cum and she makes me stop and penetrate her. I’d say she probably cums 2/5 we have sex and it’s because I have to make her go past her comfort zone when preforming oral. Now to penetrating her it usually starts out on top and transitions into doggy. Which is fine, but she rarely ever gets on top or does any other position. I also struggle with thinking my Dick isn’t big her enough for her. She’s always said I’m more then enough and such but I don’t know. I’m sitting at 6” bone pressed and right at 5” non bone pressed. I feel like I don’t penetrate her enough or that’s it’s not big enough. I know it’s probably all in my head and probably from watching porn since I was teenager but it makes me feel like shit. I try to talk to her about it and she always says it’s good but I feel like she says that to not hurt my feelings.
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Hmm ok, so self esteem issues usually are not attractive in a guy. So I would work on your confidence first.
Secondly, don’t play mind games. If she says it is a thing, then it is a thing. You have raised the conversation, you have approached it. I hope it was in a healthy way. Stop thinking about it. Sometimes things are not that complicated.
I don’t get it. What’s the problem here? Are you just creating problems in your head? Has she complained about something?
What does she say when you ask if she likes what y’all do in bed or if there’s something more she wants?
You’re not having the sex you want and blaming it on your performance and “size”. What you need to do is figure out what you want and then have a discussion with your partner about it. Sex is a mutual experience so it has to be what she wants as well if you’re going to attempt it. The key to sex is communication and confidence (in knowing what you want and what your desires and boundaries are), not physical attributes.
Not sure what your issue is here. You sound like you want to self sabotage for no good reason.