I met this girl who took a liking to me so we hung out and had a good time, we even got intimate w/ one another. Few days later she says she can’t hang out again bc of finals, moving, and personal stuff. A few days after that she says she’s not in the right mindset to be in a relationship.
This usually means that she’s just going to be in the right mindset for someone else. Its upsetting and I feel like I wasted my time with her.
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Chin up, homie. It’s not a waste of time, it’s training. Let her be ready with someone else. You move on to the next adventure.
Maybe she just wants to smash…if you’re not down then just move on, but don’t take it personally. You never know what’s going on in someone’s head.
Just start talking to someone else asap – otherwise you’ll spend too much time being upset and it can mess you up. you will 100% feel better once you do
“I’m not ready” in my experience usually translates to , ” I wanna keep exploring my options for a better choice “
girls that say they aren’t ready typically aren’t trying to deceive you on purpose. they might really not know how to figure out what they feel and they start introspecting about other parts of their lives. they may feel something else is pulling them away from what they could feel from you. it might truly not be you and maybe they figure it out after your time and start dating someone else. it happens. but i’m a woman and it’s happened to me and i don’t understand why sometimes it happens this way but i’m sure it doesn’t feel good!! (this doesn’t mean there’s outlying cases of women leading men on and knowing it… this for sure happens)
Same happened to me yesterday actually and it hurts a lot to no be able to be with her after everything but I feel like you should talk to other people and let her go before you end up hurting more by the idea of not being able to be with her