My girl, who I am currently on a break with, has really bad anxiety. I saw her today though and we had a great time together but she had a panic attack while at my new place.

I don’t know what I can do to help her. I’ve had anxiety in the past but nothing as bad as this

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  1. This is how I dealt successfully with my own longstanding anxiety:

    I think she’d likely benefit from practicing ‘quiet times’ of 20-30 minutes of just sitting and Not dwelling on anything (a form of meditation). Very difficult at first (I needed to watch a DVD of nature scenes / a fireplace as an anchor/distraction to keep my mind from wandering). youtube has lots of fireplace videos

    There are several benefits: better sleep, easier days (upsets do not hit nearly as hard), and I think that likely after practicing “not dwelling” on anything, you’ll have better control of your thoughts and acquire the ability to ‘turn off’ your anxiety reaction to situations.

    At first doing this daily should work best. After awhile, only as needed. I’ve been doing this for about two decades and lately have only felt an urge to do it a half dozen days of the year.

    A useful lesser calming practice is to do housework routines for say five minutes at a slower (70-80% rate) pace — a form of ‘walking meditation’, which you may find similarly soul refreshing.

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