Hi. Join this group for this specific reason/problem. I met this guy almost 3 weeks ago. He’s really my type. We met up about 3 times now and we’re planning to meet up again this wednesday.
The problem is he takes so long to reply to my messages. It would take him 30 mins to an hour before he replies and at night, sometimes he wouldn’t even reply (he would reply the next day but I always see that he’s online at night). He’s really really talkative in person, very touchy too which is fine to me. Overall, he’s fine in person when we’re hanging out.
I once asked him indirectly why he replies slow in the pretense of checking if he’s fine. He explained things why his responses are delayed which made me not overthink for a while. But now, i’m overthinking again because he hasn’t replied back.
PS: he’s always the one who initiated all our previous hangouts.
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You are overwhelming him.
Only respond to his lead. If he texts, text back.
If he calls, call back.
He takes 29 minutes to think about what to say and 1 minute to text you.
Date multiple guys at the same time but don’t be smooching and slobbering over all of them.
I think you’re putting too much of your energy onto the idea of him. It’s exciting and there’s a rush when you meet someone you feel you have good chemistry with, but life should continue as normal until you guys are a bit further in.
3 weeks into talking/dating with someone is not a long time although it can feel that way in the heat of the moment. Take a step back, make sure you’re doing things you enjoy and not just waiting by the phone. It will just make you feel insecure and miserable.
As a woman it’s totally cool for you to lead conversations, but there also has to be a balance. He’s initiated dates which shows his interest, so there’s no need to assume that because he hasn’t text you back on your timeframe that he isn’t anymore. He’s probably just busy living his life, as you should be too!
Match his energy for now and see where that takes you.