I have an FWB, and he knows I have a submissive side. And we both have a tendency of pushing things farther and farther. For context, I only have one partner prior to him. He’s been the only guy willing to participate in my kinks, as my ex refused, saying, “No, that’s some kinky porn shit.” But my FWB is willing to indulge my interests.
Anyway, last time I kept telling him to go harder, when I never told him that before. He saw my reaction and said I shocked him. I thought he knew me well enough that it wouldn’t shock him, but I guess we are still figuring all of this out together.
So yesterday he texted me and said, “I want to try to **** you so hard, I want to break that p****.” And today he said, “Next time I’m going to be rough with you.” I asked, “Really?” He said, “Really. I haven’t really been rough with you, have I? You took a lot of d*** last time, just not really rough.”
Now I just have questions in my head, because apparently I have never really had rough sex before. Does anyone have any ideas on what I should expect? This is all new to me, and I’m not really sure how “rough sex” is different than what we have already done? I don’t want to ask him and sound clueless, but I am just curious on what to expect?
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It’s different for everyone. Make sure he will stop if you say stop.
Some people use a Red, Yellow, Green signal system. If you’re good, you can say green. If you’re ok but maybe not much longer, you can say yellow, and if you need him to stop right away, say red. That makes communication more clear.
It’s better than relying and saying something like “easy” and expecting him to know exactly what that means.
He’ll probably just pound you out harder. If he’s a bigger guy he may just ram it in there. He might try and hit the switch and move to the butt.
Maybe first talk about boundaries, safe words and any hard limits.
Also certain positions allow him to go deeper.
Similarly situated. I thought “rough” was pounding until I started dating my current BF. It started with hard, fast PIV. Then he started incorporating spanking, stretching, hair pulling. Now he’s choking, gagging, restraining, biting, and slapping. I would describe it as dom/sub with him giving and I’m receiving.
He ALWAYS checks in with me when introducing new play and won’t proceed until I respond in the affirmative.
These are the things that are in the spectrum of “rough” sex. Your beau may have different needs/tastes/thoughts.
Enjoy!
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