I (19f) am still a virgin. I’ve masturbated before but I’ve never once cummed or orgasmed and I’ve tried every trick in the book.
I’ve never found my G spot despite peoples guidance and advice
And my clit is TINY like the tiniest I’ve ever seen and is so hidden it’s not visible one bit it’s like 0.3cm?!? When I do stimulate my clitoris my legs shake once and that’s it and sometimes it hurts to touch.
When fingering myself I can get one fully in but doesn’t feel good it doesn’t hurt it just feels like nothing even when doing the “come here” motion. I can get two but only half way (I have very skinny long fingers)
I don’t know what to do as me and my boyfriend have planned to have sex this Saturday (30th September I think) and I want it to feel good but I doubt it would. Does anyone have any tips / what I can do to help and has anyone been in the same / similar situation? Help a girl out
3 comments
You can try and have sex on Saturday if you want but you’ll have to view it as a learning experience and just to have fun. Anything else is setting yourself up for disappointment and frustration. Just have lots of foreplay and see where things go. Maybe your partner will perform oral on you. In the end you may have a great time but just don’t put a bunch of pressure on yourself.
Now for masterbating…
Our own fingers often times just don’t feel right. Someone else’s finger, a toy, or a cock, may feel better.
It perfectly normal to have a clit of your size, size really doesn’t make the difference for pleasure. You need to figure out what works for you. Again fingers may feel weird, try using another object to stimulate yourself or get a vibrator. Just go lightly until you feel building pleasure then increase pressure as desired as you get close to orgasm. You’ll feel a warm numbing feeling in your core as you get closer.
Also set aside at least an hour for yourself to explore your body. These things take time and shouldn’t be rushed.
Good luck!
I was in the same situation years ago, I’d often try to touch myself but it never actually felt good and I could never orgasm. As a solution I got a vibrator and that did the trick for a while, once I got used to my own orgasm (how to tell when I was close, how to deal with the sensitivity, etc.) I mostly ditched the vibrator and I could finally orgasm with fingers too, and now I have a great sex life. Honestly I would suggest getting a vibe, it could help you figure out more stuff about your body. Also don’t plan sex if you feel like you aren’t ready, take your time to find your own pleasure first.
See if your bf will go down on you. Thing is you’ll want him to tease you. Kiss you all over your body, breath on you clit, kiss your inner thighs. He has to do this to get you good and primed and wanting it. Then he goes in and works your clit as he’s fingering your g-spot. Have him do some research. Good luck on that orgasm!