So, I have been in a relationship for 3.5 years with my boyfriend. In the first 3 years our sex life was really healthy. But it seems that in the last 6 months, things have definitely changed. I feel like the lack of foreplay and effort has changed our sex life. I have spoken to him numerous times about how I am not super stimulated by nipple play, and prefer other things like neck kissing, teasing, ass grabbing etc. My bf does not listen and instead he goes straight to my nipples every time and then goes directly to eating me out.
Tonight I got out of the shower and laid on the bed. He kissed me for approximately 10 seconds, sucked each nipple once and then went down on me. I literally just laid there not in the mood whatsoever. He looked up and me and asked what was wrong. It was kind of awkward.. and I ended up telling him that he didn’t do much to stimulate me so the oral sex isn’t very enjoyable right now. He says that he would think I should feel stimulated by oral sex and not need much else.
Should I not need the extra foreplay? Like am I abnormal and I should actually feel 100% to go after only oral sex? I am on birth control and feel that has some kind of effect on my libido. But I’ve been on birth control since we met. It’s frustrating to me because I do communicate my needs to him, but they’re not being listened to.
Any advice or tips?
Thanks 🙂
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I literally laughed out loud when I read “he kissed me for 10 seconds, sucked each nipple once, then went down on me”
It’s like he was entering a cheat code on a game. Left-right-left-right-B-A-B-select-start. Now she’s ready for a fucking.
Honestly you could do so much better! Someone who doesn’t listen to your needs isn’t a good partner. Who knows if that will spill into another part of your relationship later on.