Hello Reddit! I need a place to vent, and perhaps gain some perspective. I’m a 29-year-old Italian content creator. On the surface, it might seem like I’ve got it all: I’m reasonably good-looking (despite being bald, which I wear with pride), stand at 181 cm with an average athletic build (not a bodybuilder physique, but quite thin). Professionally I am decently successful, with tens of thousands of followers online, almost three degrees, a past as a consultant and a startup founder. People describe me as charismatic, brilliant, empathetic and on paper, I might appear like a catch.
However, my dating life has been a stark contrast to the rest of my life. Tinder has been a perplexing journey of mostly silence. Given my online presence, I thought Tinder would be a breeze. However, despite diving into Tinder Premium, purchasing 10 boosts, meticulously selecting photos through Photofeeler, and experimenting with various bios, I’ve garnered a mere 8 likes over the last 4-5 months. Surprisingly, a chunk of those likes seem to be from spam profiles. It’s confusing and honestly a bit disheartening. Has anyone else faced this in the Tinder world? Insights or shared experiences would be valuable.
Real-world interactions haven’t been any better. I’ve had encounters with women who seem to play games, are already committed, or only view our connection as platonic. It’s been 2.5 years since I’ve been intimate with anyone and a long 5 years without a significant relationship.I think it’s important to note that I think I suffer from major depression, right now, which of course comes with its challenges. But, I can’t help but wonder if that’s the core reason for my dating difficulties, or if it’s just a combination of my personal issues and the current dating landscape. If anyone has dealt with similar struggles, especially with mental health playing a part, your stories or advice would be a beacon of hope right now.
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I mean you’re probably doing better socially than I am, also a 29yo male but I’m much more introverted.
I don’t use Tinder anymore because bots were definitely a problem, I started noticing them a lot easier over time. I’m now doing Hinge and Bumble but I’m not having a lot of luck. My confidence is definitely shaky right now especially because a lot of people my age are settling and getting married and I’m very envious of that.
Just keep trying, man. I’d like to say we’ll all make it one day, ‘trying to stay as optimistic as possible.