What makes you skip an online dating profile?

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2. Different guys will have different answers. I’ve dated women who had attractive personalities and were fairly average looking, still had a great time. It’s easier to show physical attractiveness online though than having an attractive personality.

3. if i’m not physically attracted to the woman, 98% of the time I won’t even entertain the idea of a date.

   being “nice” isn’t enough, when i’m not attracted.

   now if the extreme connection ended up happening, that’d probably get me on a date with “her”, and i’d probably become attracted to her due to the connection.

4. I swipe left on the following:

   Not attracted.
   Call themselves “thic”
   Mention sports.
   Mention smoking or drinking.
   Mention wanting to go out a lot to activities I don’t prefer.
   Monogamy.
   Mothers with kids at home.

5. I swipe left on profiles with the following attributes

   * has or wants kids
   * mentions faith, God or comes across as overly religious
   * conservative, apolitical, moderate(gets a pass sometimes)
   * mentions drinking frequently or all photos are of drinking
   * wants casual or non-monogamous relationship
   * I don’t find attractive

6. -bitter responses to writing prompts

   -empty profiles

   -pictures that all look 5+ years old

   -default pic where I can’t clearly see the face

   -generic, worn-out responses to prompts

   -obnoxious heights, just list your height. decent people do not care

   -profiles that are clearly never updated (are you the exact same? have you changed for better/worse?)

   -multiple pics with other women

   -multiple topless pics

7. I got off dating apps years ago, but, in general, I’d skip on profiles that seem like they don’t match my lifestyle.

   I party, go to events, and workout. If someone seems like too much of a homebody or doesn’t workout or diet, we’d have a clash of lifestyles. I’ve been through this before and neither of us really enjoyed it.

   > Would you got on a date with smo who seems nice but you don’t find particularly attractive?

   No, I wouldn’t. Those girls are the types of girls I’m friends with; they’re nice, we get along, but I’m not attracted to them. It’s not that they’re objectively unattractive, they’re just not my type.

8. “Send me a message because ei can’t see likes”.

   Its immediately telling us you’re going to expect to be chased and expect us to in all the effort.