I (23F) can’t really enjoy myself with other people

Hey, I’m a 23F who just had sex with a new partner, and the same issue came up.

I’m turned on and I do enjoy being touched and teased by another person, but I am SO dry for some reason, and it’s frustrating.

I like being fingered, but it feels like I’m going to pee myself, so I end up having to pull people’s hands away from me. Penetration with a penis feels the same – it either feels like too much, or I can’t feel it in general. Being rubbed on the clit also feels too overstimulating, so I end up doing the same thing. I don’t feel anything for the most part being eaten out. I’ve never orgasmed with anyone.

I’ve orgasmed by myself via hands and toys, but I’ve tried toys with other partners and I didn’t feel anything either. I feel like something is wrong with me because this has happened with 6+ people at this point. I’ve never had consistent sex with any of them except for 1, it’s just been a few times and then we’ve stopped seeing each other for other reasons. I don’t know if I just need a secure attachment to be able to feel things? Or if I just hate myself too much that I can’t let anyone make me feel good?

I just hate that I go through this again, and again, and again. I actually do have a high sex drive, so for it to end up in disappointment every time is just really killing me. I’ve always been really curious about sex, so it feels really painful to not be able to have a fullfilling sex life. Please help?

(I can’t afford a sex therapist, but I am in therapy in general).

tldr: sex and foreplay feel either too overstimulating and painful, or i don’t feel anything. it happens with every partner i’ve had. help.