I am a 35m but I think I may be sexually abnormal if there is such a thing. My favorite porn to watch is pussy eating and it needs to be involved in about any porn I indulge in when I masturbate. In all my relationships I’ve ate pussy regularly for quite awhile (usually several months) and have enjoyed it. I really like knowing that I am satisfying my partners and making them feel good, its such a huge turn on. There are times when I just prefer to give as well. In my relationships after some time it just seemed disgusting to me with that person. So I would stop doing it (we would still be sexual just not orally) and everything was fine. However, when I would get a new partner, the thought of eating pussy excites me again then after several months it just seems disgusting and I stop.
There are also times when I have been sexually active and eating pussy then as soon as I cum, it seems disgusting to me and I can’t bring myself to do it anymore. For lack of a better term, I called this post nut clarity in the post title. I always try to get her off orally before I get off if I know that’s what she wants or it won’t happen. I’m not trying to be selfish as I always make sure she gets hers because I appreciate my partners. I’m not sure if its a psychological thing or if I have an issue sexually for some reason. I do have issues with cleanliness and need to feel like my partners and myself are clean but I don’t really know if that is the issue. I would like to add that after I feel that it is disgusting with that specific partner I have been able to eat pussy again occasionally if they have just showered but its not always convenient or even ruins the mood to make sure we have just showered before doing so. Is this normal? Am I just weird? Any advice or suggestions that can help are welcome.
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From what I can tell it looks like you are experiencing shame or guilt, it can very well be that you don’t see it that way yourself but it’s subconsciously.
I would suggest talking with your partner about it it could very well be that you overthink so much about it and after a longer period you start to believe that having this sexual preference is “wrong” and you start to believe that consciously.
If you don’t want to talk to your partner about this, perhaps a sexologist could be worth talking to.
Enjoying eating muff is normal, but the weird aspects i read are:
* the stopping enjoying it a few months into a relationship, due to disgust
* the feeling of disgust with it in general (sex is a mixing, dirty, messy thing, you must accept this or you’ll go crazy or celibate)
* the cleanliness obsession – pls seek therapy on this, this could end up affecting your non sexual life
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The post nut clarity is just 1) losing the hormones that make you horny (bc you came) 2) getting other hormones after you nut that calm you down, make you less interested in sex. So that you’re in your default state, and don’t feel the need to eat pussy anymore.
So, pnc is kind of expected with your disgust/aversion to oral (on the base/normal level), once your body isn’t mashing the sexual gas pedal. The real issue is the disgust I mentioned above.
Good luck