Should a man be able to financially provide for a woman?

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1. Split, no one can earn enough to pay 100% for anyone now, times are hard

2. With kids not involved, each person should be able to financially support themselves at a minimum.

   I would never date a woman who wasn’t financially independent. It creates a sort of power dynamic that can be bad for a relationship.

   When kids enter the picture it gets more complicated.

3. There’s no such thing as “should”. When we throw that word around, we’re saying that random ppl we’ve yet to meet need to follow some arbitrary rules made up by some person we’ve never met anyways.

   There are some men who earn enough to be the sole breadwinner. There’s men who split everything in their relationships. It’s up to whatever the man chooses he wishes to do.

4. A it should be up to the two parties in the relationship.

5. This sub is just a cesspool of dumb questions.

6. If they plan on getting pregnant he needs to be able to carry the load for a while but ideally she has leave form work, however we all know even good jobs usually don’t give enough parental leave and most give 0 and she risks losing it

   That’s probably the main issue

7. Not anymore, we are equal now remember?

8. Does it not depend entirely on the individual couple, what they want and need and choose to do, just like everything else?

9. Why, in this day and age should a man be the one that has to support the other person? Is it not right that we share the responsibility of helping each other?

10. Every adult should be able to financially provide for themselves

11. I believe in gender equality. So no.

    Many women still want the man to be the ‘breadwinner’. These women then complain about the wage gap and Patriarchy. As if 1+1 doesn’t equal 2 …

12. Not in this economy. If your can look after yourself that’s enough.

13. 50/50 for me. The idea of being the sole provider sounds stressful.

14. I think all adults should be financially independent before entering into a serious romantic relationship. I don’t really see the point in marriage, the divorce rate is so high, but I know it’s a goal for many people.

    All the stay at home moms I know did not want to be stay at home moms. They felt forced into that decision due to day care costing more than what they earned. Childcare costs are insanely high.

15. Should a woman be able to financially provide for a man?

16. Do both people want a traditional marriage? Can they be happy playing those roles and accepting the +s and -s that come with it? Then sure why not.

    If not then it’s better to share costs and divide responsibilities and roles.

17. In the 1960s you ladies were manipulated by the Rockefeller’s for the woman’s right to work, the game was changed and you can’t expect a man to cover everything like before the game was changed. Get off the couch, quit being lazy and be a partner instead of a cúm dump looking online for the next lay.

18. Be able to? Yes

    Have to? No

19. Depends on a lot of things rather than it just being a should/shouldn’t kind of thing. Unless you had or were having kids it probably wouldn’t matter. And if inflation is looking how it’s looking right now (depending on where you are) it’s almost definitely unrealistic to completely cover the finances

20. I don’t believe It should be a requirement for dating or marriage. I think everyone’s earning capacity is different so it should be a conversation about what it affordable for both parties to contribute. It shouldn’t lead to resentment or anger so the more it is discussed and feels fair the better. If you don’t live together then each party should be able to support themselves.

21. It’s good if both parties are stable and would be able to stand up on their own. But as a man sometimes it feels good that you can provide for the woman you love.