For most of our relationship, my (21F) expectations of it was not met. I was promised a lot of things by him, but I feel like I’m learning words ain’t nothing without actual actions behind it.
He’s very kind and means well. But, it feels like it’s too late. Like I’m already at a point where I feel I am grieving this disappointment. I still love him, but I feel more confused than anything. I’m scared I’m making a huge mistake and that I won’t find someone as caring as him. And it’s not like I think I’m unattractive, I’m just scared.
TL;DR I feel like I’ve been waiting in vain for my (21F) boyfriend (22M) and because of it, I’ve lost some hope.
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Sometimes if somebody repeatedly shows they don’t care enough to fix a problem, one does lose feelings, and if they start fixing things then, it can be too late. If you lost interest in being with him, that would be normal and understandable.
Ever heard the expression too little too late?
At 21, I wouldn’t advise you to waste your time trying to drum up feelings for him. He’s not the only guy on the planet. You absolutely will find better.
You will find someone else who makes you feel special and loved. If the light has gone out, it’s gone out. Don’t waste time with someone who you had to force to show you love, that’s not how it should be.
You’re 21 you have so much time to find a more equal partnership