I’m F22 and I have tried every little thing in the book, I even got myself a toy but unfortunately I can’t feel much of anything. Nor am I able to stay wet for long periods of time. As crazy as this is gonna sound but I truly think I was born without a clitoris, yes I’ve looked down there and inspected myself plenty of times but to no avail.
I’ve tried fingering myself but it feels too weird, I don’t feel any rough spongy texture. Instead If I go far enough inside my vaginal canal I’m met with this weird texture that doesn’t feel pleasant.
It doesn’t help that I have (Asperger’s former name) ADHD, OCD etc. Which this has caused me to be on stimulants and SSRIs since I was young and I’m afraid this killed my libido. Im also not afraid to admit that I was exposed to the internet at a very young age and saw things that no 9 yr old should see. Safe to say I have a lot wrong with me and idk how I’m gonna tell my future partner about my issues, they’re gonna be hurt that I’m unable to stay aroused for long. I hate this so much..
14 comments
Have you tried using a vibrator?
based on post history see a gyno asap!
There’s a lot of questions there but first of all i dont think you were born without a clitoris, its just that some are like little buried treasures behind a bunch of skin ,for example the clitoral hood for one then deep inside the labia majora , you mentioned not being wet enough well are you giving yourself enough time or are you rushing ,are you stressed, are you on meds ,those are some things that can keep you dry , have you tried any artificial lube on your toy when you inserted it ? A lot of times it takes the body to warm up ,especially mentally, the brain is 50% of why we get aroused, if not its gonna feel sore and very disappointing.
Maybe change to Wellbutrin. Very different profile than other mood drugs for this topic.
Odds are there’s nothing at all wrong with you. Most women can’t orgasm from PIV sex and, like the penis, the clitorus swells when it’s engorged. I have ADHD, BPD and am a daddy Dom and have helped several women achieve their first orgasm. Even if you don’t have a clitorus a woman’s orgasm is a mental thing, it’s like an electrical storm in your brain. Lots of foreplay, some edibles and every filthy though you have all prime your brain for an orgasm but it’s a mental thing that you trigger thinking about what’s going and how you’re being stimulated and used. It is possible you have some real medical problem so you should talk to an ob/gyn but lots of guys around your own age really don’t know much about what they’re doing and just get in and get off. 😪
Yes, both medications and trauma can kill libido. I’d recommend talking to a doctor and seeing if you can try changing meds to find something that works better for you.
Look at their posts
Op go see a gyno.
Check post history.
Saw that other post of yours and it legit made me sad, you have a hole where the clitoris should be. 😢
Do you get horny at all? Can you imagine a sexy scenario and start to feel aroused?
Let me try if I can’t do it there definitely something wrong .
Looking at your post history you need to see a gynecologist. Your doctor is wrong in saying you don’t go until you’re 25. I started going at 17. You don’t need a referral so call some local offices and just make an appointment. Reddit can’t help you with this as it appears there’s an actual medical issue going on with you
It is possible the doctors and your parents thought you had too big a clitoris at birth and had part of it removed, that happens for fear of intersex children. I didn’t want to say this but that’s one thing that maybe happened. The hole where your clit should be could be the result of a large amount of it being removed when you were really young.
You need to see a gynecologist because your anatomy is not typical and maybe something medically can be done to help.
That said, a vibrator like a Hitachi magic wand is what I would recommend. Also, I’d recommend experimenting with nipple play or anal play. A lot of people will have their bodies rewire themselves sexually and certain zones become erogenous that might not be so you will have to experiment and see what feels good on your body.