Dealing with urges

A little backstory. So I’ve (26M) had my virginity stolen from me a little over a year ago by my ex (23F). Haven’t had any urge to have sex before, during, or after that relationship. It ended 9 days after the incident, 10 days after making our relationship official. Back in February I met the beautiful woman (26f) I’m seeing now. The relationship been so great that I willingly gave myself to her. Sex was a regular occurrence for us until 3 months ago when her mental health took a nose dive and the sex stopped completely. I’m really trying to be patient with her as she waited on me to be able to have an emotional connection to her. but the urges been so strong that’s it’s hella irritating and been very irritable. A few weeks ago we did initiate sex and it was going good until I went to grab a condom. She said she’s in the mental state where she can get easily addicted to sex, alcohol, ect, ect. And that she doesn’t want to make me feel like she’s using me. So I backed off. A couple weeks ago we’ve initiated sex again but this time we couldn’t go all the way cause she was on her period. So for me it’s been 3 months where I wasn’t completely satisfied. I don’t want to resort to other people to satisfy my urges out of respect for her. But it’s been getting stronger and stronger lately. Fyi we are not together yet but we’ve developed a really tight bond. I dont know what to do.