Hello this is in reference to my earlier post about an honestly unnecessary pregnancy scare. My (19) boyfriend (19) of 3 months came over to talk with me and seemed incredibly stressed by the situation, even though we’ve done everything we can to prevent a pregnancy (I took plan b after and have been taking birth control, he uses condoms but his broke, thus the scare). But he said that looking at me like still upsets him? And that he needs time? Which under normal circumstances I would think means we’re breaking up, but he kept apologizing and saying he’s sorry which confused me, so I’m not really sure.
Edit: also lol if he has indeed broken up with me how do I explain that to my mom (who is unaware that we have been sexually active)? Any advice would be appreciated
TLDR: boyfriend may have broken up with me? I am confused?
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He’s not mature and educated enough to be in a sexual relationship. There’s nothing to explain to your mom. You’re an adult and it’s none of her business. You only dated 3 months and you were incompatible
I mean, as a knee-jerk reaction, it’s not entirely surprising that the guy wouldn’t want to have a baby at 19, with someone he’s only been with for 3 months. If I were to afford him some leeway, I’d say that yes, _theoretically_ anyone’s who’s willingly having sex should be aware of the risks of getting (the other) pregnant, but _practically?_ that’s a whole different story. It’s one thing to discuss theoretically and another to actually be faced with a broken condom and the prospect of being a father (because no type of birth control is 100% fool-proof!). So I’m not surprised at all that the guy is scared at all the responsibility he’d possibly have to take on.
I suspect your boyfriend will still be wary of you until you tell him you’re not pregnant.
After that, it’s up to you whether you want to continue dating him or not. if you agree to keep going, you need to have a serious talk about the possibility of another pregnancy scare; if you’re not on the same page for how to deal with that, you should break up. But, again, I wouldn’t fault the guy for not wanting to have a baby at 19; and birth control, once again, _can_ fail, no matter how careful you think you’re being (because there’s no such thing as fool-proof or perfect usage).
As for telling your mom? You don’t have to give her a detailed report, just say that you weren’t feeling in love with him anymore.