I’m interested in understanding the dating perspectives of men over 30.
Green Flags : What specific qualities or characteristics attract you to a woman? What traits would make you want to commit to an exclusive long-term relationship with a woman?
Red Flags: What particular behaviors or traits are immediate deal-breakers for you in dating?
Attitude Towards Dating: How do you currently approach dating? Are you seeking something casual, looking for a serious relationship, adopting a let’s-see-where-this-goes mentality?
If you’ve observed any changes in your dating preferences or attitudes over time, additional insights into that would also be appreciated.
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Green Flags: Asian
Red Flags: Not Asian
Green flags: nice and doesn’t care about my income or about me being mentally disabled
Red flags: mean and cares about my income and about me being mentally disabled
Attitudes towards dating: I haven’t dated or even attempted dating at at all as and adult and don’t even really know how to get a girlfriend, but I would want a serious relationship.
Green Flags: Reads Books, Enjoy’s Hiking or is Athletic
Red Flags: Has Tattoo’s, Owns a dog
35 and freshly out of a 4 year relationship. Broke up for a number of reasons, but biggest one was I wanted kids and she didn’t. So that has a huge impact on what I’m looking for in a relationship now, obviously.
Green flags: Nurturing, generous, smiles/laughs easily, responsible
Red flags: Lazy, if a single mom – doesn’t put her kids first, tries to act like a 20-something club girl. In terms of online dating profiles a HUGE red flag is too many filters or pictures that are only neck and above. I have no doubt it’s hard out there for bigger women, but don’t try to hide it. That’s always a losing strategy.
Attitude towards dating: Optimistic. I’m not in a huge hurry, and I’m cautious not to rush in to anything, but I’m definitely dating with intention. I want to be a family man before I’m 40.
Additional insights: Of course I view dating differently than I did when I was in my 20’s. This would be too long of a reply to describe all of the ways I view dating differently, but a few highlights are I value a woman who have a stable life that I’d be an addition to but not a crutch they want to lean on. I also really value maturity and responsibility more than I did before.
Green flags: smart, funny, ambitious, independent, confident, sexual
Red flags: insecure, jealous, lazy, pessimistic
Attitude towards dating: I’m not going to try too hard. Not on any apps or going on formal “dates”. I like to make friends with a lot of different people and get to know them. If someone is interesting and there’s a spark, I’ll want to spend more time with them to get to know them better.
I’m not single, but I’m also not monogamous, so I do still date from time to time.
If I am to build anything long-term, she would have to be someone I can be myself around, and she would have to be herself as well. She would also need to be independent. Have her own mind, her own opinions, ideas, and hobbies.
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I’m more of a let’s see where this goes type. Maybe it stays casual, maybe it gets more serious, there are too many variables to list here. But if I were to summarize, I just want a little of your extra time
What is with the chat gpt style questions in this sub recently?