We both have partners so I’m not asking this with the hopes of it going anywhere. Rather, I want to be able to detect flirting because I haven’t a clue.
Almost every shift I would get a compliment- whether it was that he liked my hair, that I looked good, or that I was kind. He would sometimes comment on my clothes and ask about them.
He would often ask if I was okay, for example if I was being quiet or had a Vietnam flashback look (retail). Though I would ask him the same.
On our last shift together he gave a work-related reason to ask for my Instagram. The following day he DMed to ask if I could cover a shift for him. I agreed and he said he owed me a fancy cocktail. Then he text me at 3am thanking me again and hoping the shift goes well.
He’s generally a charismatic guy to everyone and our shifts would generally be just the two of us. However, compared to my other coworkers it felt like we made a lot more eye contact, he would be physically closer to me than others, and he seemed to make an effort at making me comfortable whilst still bantering with me.
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Well he does like your company, that’s for sure. Tough to tell whether he’s flirting let alone with any intentions, though the cocktail thing is pretty much straight-up asking to hang out, just the two of you.
Text at 3am though? Does this stand out to you or do you have late night shifts anyhow?
Flirting for sure
Yes as a man I can tell you he fancies you. I mean the cocktail thing gives it away that’s basically seeing what your reaction is, before he eventually asks you out.
I’m going to tell you that there isn’t a person here who is gonna “know” other than him. He may be flirty with you or just a catch.
There’s a guy like this at my job, and there is no way he’s flirting with the ladies. I had another work buddy who was just a flirt in general.
He’s definitely flirting with you, but might not necessarily want it to go anywhere (considering you both have partners). Some people just like flirting 🙂
But do keep in mind that if you entertain his flirting enough, you might lead him on, so if you don’t want that be wary…
I’d say it’s inconclusive. As long as he doesn’t make you uncomfortable I wouldn’t worry about it since you both have partners.
Edit: With how overthinking often goes, you could make yourself believe anyone is flirting with you despite how accurate or inaccurate you are which is why I think it’s inconclusive.
He’s definitely flirting. If he’s happy with his personal life he’d be rushing home after work. He’s a loser “wanna be alpha male” trying his luck on you. I suggest you show him you’re not attracted to him. In three days he’ll go crazy because someone isn’t attracted to him. That guy’s definitely 100% loser.
He seems to be flirting. What happens if you bring up your partner, does he change the subject? Does he bring up his? In a good way or complaining?
Since you both have partners that’s why he might be cautious while flirting so he can deny it if needed and at the same time test your response to his advances.
I think u have a clue. Good luck
First time to comment on Reddit, so here goes:
It’s hard to tell someone’s true intentions unless they are being direct.
There’s a good chance he feels more comfortable around you bc you both make each other feel safe and thus more open to one another. Without knowing what his relationship with his S/O is like, he very well could be missing that adult positive interaction and you are just a safe person in his life that he can appropriately be real around, the compliments could be his only way of giving appropriate affection without rejection. Like I said…many variables can be at play here.
Men and women are able to be friends platonically, it can be difficult and lines can be blurred but it’s possible. Best way to put it or understand it, look for context. How often does he talk about his wife or what is their relationship like. It really could be either. Unless he directly says or does anything that is straight to the point that he’s flirting, like saying inappropriate things or going too far in comments, telling you straight up…there’s not a way to tell
Yep he does. No reason for a coworker to ask for social media and it’s a hidden way to get in contact with you without asking for a phone number
You already know the answer, you’ve got a partner, make it clear
Some men like to “hunt” and get attention step by step, also they enjoy flirting and getting closer slowly. I think he fancies you, especially if he asked for your instagram.. ✨
No sure if he’s flirting but I recommend never get your money and your honey in the same place.
Shooting the shit with you but on the side probably hopes or is waiting to see if you become single.
Yes.
The owing you a cocktail is clearly flirting.