Hi, I(f23) started having sex half a year ago. My boyfriend is quite well endowed at 7×5.5 inches. Whenever we have sex, my pussy, especially around the opening of the vagina, gets really sore.
Is it because he’s a bit too big for me or could it be pussy lips too? We use a lot of lube always, but sometimes it dries a bit and I can feel when he tries to push it in my pussy lips kind of go inside too and I have to hold them spread open.
I love sex and we have it often but I wonder if I will ever get used to it or it’s going to be like this all the time?
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Reapply the lube
This most likely happens due to two reasons that go hand in hand: lack of lubrication and insufficient arousal.
Does this always happen or just sometimes?
I feel like natural lubrication is best, so if you could increase that through a longer foreplay session and only start penetration when you’re really aroused it might help.
Personally, I hate water based lube with a passion. I’ve tried sooo many and all end up a sticky mess that prevents good penetration. Silicone lube is a lot nicer and it doesn’t dry up (just don’t use it with silicone toys). It’s also safe to use with condoms. I like Pjur Original but I’m sure there are plenty others that are great.
But regardless of how much lube there is, if he’s too big for you or you are insufficiently aroused, there will still be discomfort. I’d recommend seeing a pelvic therapist if they are available where you live. You can also take a peek at the /vaginismus subreddit (not saying you might have vaginismus, but there is a lot of useful advice there) and maybe [Pelvic Gym](https://pelvicgym.co).
You need a different lube. Go get you a jar or cold pressed, unrefined coconut oil. It makes amazing massage oil and lube. Tastes good and won’t dry out. It’s the only thing I’ve used for the last 15 years.
Try silicone based lube, because it doesn’t dry out. Then, you don’t have to reapply, or at least you would have to reapply much less.