So I’m crushing so hard on this guy at work. He’s about 20 years older than me 23f. This feels weird because the crush I have feels fantasy like.
I had a similar infatuation with an art teacher when I was 12. It’s been so long time since I’ve had a crush but now I’m legal and of age I’m wondering can a man see when a much younger woman has grown fond of him.
He will compliment me on what I’m wearing sometimes and give me tasks to do so we can talk more. Sometimes when I talk to him he’s looking at the floor and avoiding I contact.
This man is very affectionate towards me but I can’t tell if it’s like a little sister/niece type of affection or a deep fondness for me, something beyond kinship.
Men 35+ what would you make of a much younger woman having a crush on you? Would it make you feel uncomfortable?
Also is it obvious when a younger women is into you?
Would you act affectionately to all much younger women out of friendliness or just the ones you think are cute?
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Attractive, yes.
Would I go there? Noooope.
40m
I’m an equal opportunity lover.
No I’ve never really had crushes on younger girls, I’ve known a few through friends and I’ve always found them to be immature and often fire crackers that can explode over silly things. And their lack of life experience can make them a nightmare to talk to as they can’t relate
Eh. I mean I can think “wow she’s attractive”, sure, but as a rule I wouldn’t be able to get over the creep factor. It’s just too wide a gap for me personally (I’m in my late 30s).
Some guys wouldn’t give a shit, and would go for it. And I guess there’s some theoretical situations where I really click with someone despite the gap.
I do think that if you made a move, and asked him, he wouldn’t be repulsed or anything. At worst he’d gently turn you down. And I mean, fuck it, if you like the guy, and understand the challenges/risks of a gap like that, you do you
They’re attractive until they speak. Within a minute or two, the difference in maturity is made clear.
I’m sure there are exceptions or there, but I’ve never met one.