My first time ever asking for advice but here goes. I am really into this guy, he’s out of a 3 year old relationship since August 2021 but def not over it. We’ve been hooking up since November 2021 & have a very strong connection, I feel like he might be the one but he told me he doesn’t feel the same yet. He keeps telling me he never had a connection like this with anyone before but for some reason he doesn’t feel in love or anything, just sees me as a friend.
We share emotional trauma from our childhoods & therefore share the same views on most things in life & the world in general hence why the connection is so strong. Sex is amazing as well. He agrees on all of those things.
The thing is, I created this attachment bc I dont date anyone ever bc for me its very difficult to feel a connection but now I dont know if I’m being played, but since I dont feel like this easily its difficult for me to not stick around. Also its pretty early as well, we’ve only been seeing each other for 5 months so maybe its me rushing into things. Part of me thinks it’s normal that it’s not easy for him to get over such a long relationship & that he needs time and to experience things (there’s a possibility he’s seeing other people as well).
I keep hearing mixed advice from people around us or in general of whether I should give him time or cut it off, hence why I am coming to the internet for help.
Should I wait to see if he moves on from his past relationship or am I being dumb by sticking around? Should I cut him off or remain friends?
Thank you 💖
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Love isnt butterflies or adrenaline or blood pumping or heart racing.
Its being calm and at peace and you with the said person.
Is that the kind of connection you have with him?
Does he understands this? If no, can you get him to understand and if he feels the same way?
Only after knowing his stand then you’ll know what to do next no?