I (40f) have been seeing my bf (41m) for a couple months. We stayed away from sex for a little bit because I wanted to take it slow, but we recently became sexually active and he gave me oral a couple times. He’s more experienced than me and oh my god he literally made my legs shake. I came so so hard every time, each orgasm lasted roughly 30-40 seconds.
Yesterday I gave him a blow job for the first time and when he came, it ended very quickly I guess? Like there was so much build up to it and then it was just like \*splooge\* and it was over. I asked him if I did alright and he said it was amazing and that dude’s orgasms are usually short like that. Is that true???
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Yes
Sadly… yes…
I’ve heard P orgasms are almost like a womans o.
Sadly men’s orgasms are much quicker than women’s but supposedly is more intense. However stimulating the male prostate until orgasm tends to last longer than the traditional method.
You’re looking at about 5-10 seconds, yeah.
The build up to orgasm is awesome the playing and teasing even before sexy time happens. Edging should be a thing, it will also ensure his load is nice and big.
When he comes make sure to keep going until he tells you to stop. It’s important to stroke/suck/ride until he is empty.
For the pro level you can try rimming his anus and maybe playing there if he is comfortable. Not all guys like that though.
As a woman I have never had one that lasted over like 3-5 seconds.
I haven’t timed it, but yeah you get a handful of pumps and that’s it . You might get post cum seepage after a few minutes.
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I sometimes have very intense orgasms for more then 20 seconds but I’ve not heard a lot of guys that have that
This is the reason i always think sex is not a race to orgasm and that pleasure is key to have good sex. Okay we all want to end it with a big O and a great smile, but getting to it is what really makes it fun.
Also i really enjoy focusing on my SO pleasure, which is totally part of the experience and it helps build my own.
Pretty much. I’ve heard it joked about that as a man it feels better to almost orgasm than it does to actually orgasm. because once we do it’s over.
Guys have short orgasms in general. I’ve been with women that cum like guys but others that have stretched out and very long orgasms that seem to last a minute or more. Depends on the body but any one of my partners orgasms is longer than a months worth of mine.
Doesn’t happen often but I’ve had 30-45 second orgasm before
I’ve had P spot orgasms while masturbating with a prostate toy inserted. Definitely longer and more intense.
Most of the time. Unless its a prostate orgasm, those can last a while.
Yes, the fun is in the build up and the orgasm is just the release. It’s amazing, but short… and then everything is overly sensitive and we can’t fuck anymore for some (minutes for some, days for others) time.
It’s hard to measure the length of the male orgasm, since it’s hard to pinpoint the exact moment before the spurting that the semen is released, and this internal release is the start. It’s also hard to pinpoint the end, since the orgasmic clenches gradually get weaker and weaker, and it’s hard to say which is the last clench of orgasm and which is just a post-orgasm throb. I’d say that the whole orgasm, counting the release and most of the last spurts, tends to last some 30 seconds, but the main event, those first few hard spurts, tends to be over in some 5-10 seconds.
Upvoting for the word *splooge*.
Yeah. 15 seconds of orgasmic bliss is about average. White stuff shoots out, and we’re done.
But, you can learn to edge him. Bring him right to the point where’s he’s just about to cum, and stop. Just let go. No contact. Get him so worked up he impulsively reaches for his cock when you stop, but you’ll sleep his hands away and tell him he cums when your ready. After he’s calmed down a bit, start back on him, and repeat this for an hour.
The things we males will do for a good 5 seconds of heaven.
Women won the genetic lottery when it came to orgasms.
30-40 seconds?? i have never had an orgasm last that long
Yeap, if you talk about it and communicate with good timing you can have him almost having an orgasm rather than him actually having it… Like making him edge a couple of times, that’s like an extended orgasm with pauses in between that will build up to a way more intense “splooge”.
I have to applaud the fact that you actually asked if you were doing it right, try incorporating “what else would you like me to do or try?”, most times lack of communication around sex keeps us from even better experiences
Depends on the guy and how it’s done. I dated one guy that had very long, drawn out and overwhelming prostate orgasms. That was fun. He said prostate stimulation made it feel like he was having an orgasm the entire time.
The guy I’m seeing now, his vary. Sometimes they’re just meh, and he doesn’t feel it at all, it just happens and surprises us in an annoying sort of way. Other times, we can go over and over again, and he can have multiple orgasms. Other times, if I touch him or ride him just the right way and don’t stop while he’s cumming, he can sometimes have much longer and over the top intense ones, sometimes the leg shaking, can’t even speak, kind. Then afterward, he gets really ticklish. That’s how I check if he enjoyed himself. By trying to tickle him and seeing if he responds like an Elmo 😂 I could also just ask him but it’s more fun this way.
It sucks that I’m so late here and will be buried, but as a man, I think men are generally really bad at cumming. We clinch down and grit it out like a shit. With proper breathing, kegels and combining clenching with relaxing, we can have full bodied long orgams exactly like women.